August 3, 2022
Blind dates can be nerve-wracking. You don’t know the individual well and since it’s the first time seeing each other, you may feel pressured to act a certain way.
You may already know the other person’s basic information such as their name, age, profession, or friend group. You may have met through mutual friends or a small group. However, even if you know a little about them, the wait before the date can wear on you.
Here are some tips to get out of your head, help you relax, and enjoy your upcoming date:
Are you expecting to be swept off your feet by your date’s depth and wisdom the first time you meet? Do you expect to have interesting conversations from the get-go? These are high expectations to put on another person and can lead to disappointment.
Go into the date with zero expectations. Instead, have fun and go with the flow.
If things are going well, it can be easy to gloss over the fact that you’re not even together yet. It’s important to get to know them, but avoid asking extremely personal or invasive questions. This goes both ways — don’t overshare just because they’re a good listener.
If you’d like to address a potentially personal topic, ask them if they’re comfortable discussing it. Don’t pressure them to open up too fast; some people take more time to get comfortable than others. Take things slow and see where it leads.
Before going on a date, create the mindset that you’re going to have fun. Learn more about this person, and who knows — you could click well. Don’t put pressure on it, after all, they could just become a new friend. They may not be your future spouse, and that’s okay. Enjoy the date, stay relaxed, and be yourself.
If everything goes well and both of you enjoy yourselves, you can use this line: “I’d love to do this again. What are you doing next week?” But only say it if you mean it. Keep following these tips and enjoy yourself!
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