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5 Reasons Why You Shouldn’t Date a Colleague

5 Reasons Why You Shouldn’t Date a Colleague

September 21, 2022

5 Reasons Why You Shouldn’t Date a Colleague

Workplace dating can be a tricky affair. You may have strong feelings for someone at work, but is pursuing those feelings worth the risk? Here are a few reasons you might want to think twice before dating a colleague.

It Could Be Awkward

You will inevitably see each other every day, which can make things uncomfortable if things don’t work out or if they don’t feel the same way. Even if you try to keep things low-key, gossip can spread like wildfire in an office, and you may find yourself the subject of it.

It Could Affect Your Work

This could be a problem regardless of whether things pan out with you and your workplace sweetheart. If things do go well, you may find yourself distracted knowing that they’re just across the room or down the hall. Becoming too busy with flirtatious texts and stolen glances is counterproductive to your work. Additionally, if things go sour, it can be hard to continue working together without feeling awkward or resentful. Just the very building you work in could be a constant reminder of what could have been. This kind of emotional discourse is better minimized at work.

It Can Seem Unprofessional

Dating a colleague can also make you look unprofessional. Your colleagues may question your judgment and wonder if you’re more interested in your personal life than your work. Additionally, if you’re dating someone who is in a different position of authority, it can create the appearance of favoritism or nepotism.

It Can Be Difficult to End

Breaking up is never easy, but it can be especially difficult when you have to see each other every day at work. If you’re not on good terms, it can make going to work every day a nightmare. Additionally, if you work in a small office, it may be difficult to avoid each other completely.

It Can Lead to HR Issues

Unwanted advances in the workplace can be taken as sexual harassment depending on how you choose to approach the situation, even if your intention isn’t to harass. Furthermore, if you are rejected (or vice versa) any perceived confrontation in the future between the two of you could lead to accusations of retaliation. Even if these claims are hyperbolic, an investigation can be costly and time-consuming and can even lead to you having to take time off work when you can’t afford to do so. Additionally, it can damage your reputation and career.

Takeaway

Dating a colleague can be risky business. If you’re thinking about it, weigh the pros and cons carefully. It’s important to consider how it could affect your work performance, professional reputation, and personal life.

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