March 7, 2022
You’ve finally met the right person and you’re totally infatuated with them.
Yes, you have some negative times with arguing and they may not call when they say they will, but no one is perfect, right?
Your parents have been watching the drama and you know they’re about to give you some parental advice—those negative comments about your partner that always irritate you.
But something’s different this time. Your parents say nothing. Not even a grunt when you say, “I don’t think anybody cares about me”. Is this hallelujah or a death knell?
I sat down at the kitchen table wondering what just happened. Mom then entered. She said, “Dad and I decided you’re grown now and no longer need our guidance. We love you but will no longer meddle in your affairs”. She then left the room.
I was ticked. How could they do this now when I need them most?
But I then remembered how many times I fought back in anger when they gave advice in the past. I realized I now am the grown-up needing to give advice—advice to myself.
I then thought about dating and realized there are lessons and skills to learn such as handling someone else’s emotions and accepting and dispensing rejection. And as with most skills, experience leads to better outcomes.
So, I looked at my current situation and decided to give the relationship some time – time to evaluate my partner closer to see if maybe this could be a problem that would carry on into the future with bigger problems.
And as I sat gazing out the kitchen window, I said to myself, “My Independence really did come at an unexpected price. No more safety nets. My future now depends solely on me!”.
Now using My S-T-O-I-C STORYTELLING method:
(S) My parents want me to break up with my partner, what should I do?
(T) “We should always allow some time to elapse, for time discloses the truth.” Seneca
“Do not be anxious about anything, but in every situation, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God.” Apostle Paul
(O) I decided to consider the previous words of my parents.
(I) I realized they care for my wellbeing and want me to succeed.
(C) The character trait I improved on was being open-minded and patient with My Relationship.
The Stoicess’ Secret?
My Independence came at an unexpected price.
Remember: “It’s the Situation Keeping My Connection with Him”.
I’m Lori Stith, The Stoicess, and I believe in You!
Here’s the video link if you’d like to watch: https://youtu.be/uqUr3Wna3r8
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