March 7, 2022
You’ve finally met the right person and you’re totally infatuated with them.
Yes, you have some negative times with arguing and they may not call when they say they will, but no one is perfect, right?
Your parents have been watching the drama and you know they’re about to give you some parental advice—those negative comments about your partner that always irritate you.
But something’s different this time. Your parents say nothing. Not even a grunt when you say, “I don’t think anybody cares about me”. Is this hallelujah or a death knell?
You sat down at the kitchen table wondering what just happened. Mom then entered. She said, “Dad and I decided you’re grown now and no longer need our guidance. We love you but will no longer meddle in your affairs”. She then left the room.
You were ticked. How could they do this now when you need them most?
But you then remembered how many times you fought back in anger when they gave advice in the past. You realized you now are the grown-up needing to give advice—advice to yourself.
You then thought about dating and realized there are lessons and skills to learn such as handling someone else’s emotions and accepting and dispensing rejection. And as with most skills, experience leads to better outcomes.
So, you looked at your current situation and decided to give the relationship some time – time to evaluate your partner closer to see if maybe this could be a problem that would carry on into the future with bigger problems.
And as you sat gazing out the kitchen window, you said to yourself, “My Independence really did come at an unexpected price. No more safety nets. My future now depends solely on me!”
Now using My S-T-O-I-C STORYTELLING method:
(S) My parents want me to break up with my partner, what should I do?
(T) “We should always allow some time to elapse, for time discloses the truth.” Seneca
“Do not be anxious about anything, but in every situation, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God.” Apostle Paul
(O) I decided to consider the previous words of my parents.
(I) I realized they care for my wellbeing and want me to succeed.
(C) The character trait I improved on was being open-minded and patient with My Relationship.
The Stoicess’ Secret?
My Independence came at an unexpected price.
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