When Told Your Partner is a Cheater

January 30, 2023

What to do when told partner cheating in your relationship

Handling a Potential Cheater

It’s early morning, and you’re excited knowing you will be spending a relaxing day with your beloved. “What a wonderful relationship the two of you have”, you think to yourself. That is until that phone call came telling you that your beloved is cheating on you.

On your beloved’s arrival, most would get right to the point – no hesitation – “Are you cheating on me?” Immediately a storm of emotions from both sides ensues. In the end, the devastation from a tornado is all that’s left of their relationship.

But, You’re Different

For you, you avoid these words at all costs. From your training with the Stoicess, you know that these words cause complications whether they are true or not. It shows you’ve already made up your mind, that a trial is present, “so defend yourself accordingly, Partner!”. And the trust is now broken. A no-win situation ensues. Heads, you lose. Tails, you lose. Emotions have dictated the outcome. So, instead, how do you proceed?

You stay calm in your mind, and if you feel so inclined, you check the facts thoroughly at your own pace. If the findings appear correct, you then focus on one question…. Do you want to stay in this relationship or not? Because, in the end, you’re the only one who knows you and how you want the relationship to proceed.

Now using My S-T-O-I-C Storytelling Meditation method:

(S) I’m told my partner is cheating on me, what should I do?
(T) “To accuse others for one’s own misfortunes is a sign of want of education. To accuse oneself shows that one’s education has begun.” Epictetus
“He that is without sin among you, let him first cast a stone at her.” Jesus
(O) I decided to ignore the comments.
(I) I realized that to accuse my partner would end our relationship before the trial ensued.
(C) The character trait that I improved was not letting negative comments from others affect my well-being.

The Stoicess’ Secret:

To accuse one of cheating is to render the verdict for the relationship before the trial meeting.

I’m Lori Stith, The Stoicess
Your Christian Life Coach
AND I believe in YOU!

If you like what you mentally, now see, join my website to learn and think like me at StoicMatchmaker.com.