November 23, 2022
Gamophobia is the proper term for someone with a fear of commitment. “Gamos” comes from the Greek word for “marriage”, while “phobos” means “fear”.
The fears of those with Gamophobia vary. An individual may be afraid of being abandoned. They also may fear being rejected by a loved one or being left alone. As a result of these fears, they may be afraid of marriage, and the loss of independence.
In fact, some people with gamophobia find it impossible to commit themselves to a relationship. They often avoid the commitment phase of a relationship because that fear of losing the person they are with continually haunts them.
People who have Gamophobia find it difficult to form lasting intimate relationships. Even when in a great relationship, someone with gamophobia may encounter anxiety or worry about the relationship ending, although there is absolutely no supporting evidence present.
Many with this phobia tend to push people away or end a relationship abruptly in order to not be caught on the wrong side of a breakup.
The fears and mistrust associated with Gamophobia can have roots in several different life experiences. Here’s a few to consider:
If you have a fear of abandonment or problems with trust, you may have grown up with family members who experienced the same. Those family members may have developed the phobia and it is very possible that you have adopted their perspective as your own as you face entering a relationship.
In other cases, people can be afraid of rejection because they experienced it as a child. Their parents may have given them confusing messages regarding relationships, leaving them with an overall mistrust of other people.
A common source of gamophobia is divorce. Divorce is the worst form of betrayal. When one partner in a couple decides to walk out on the other, they are no longer around to provide support. They are no longer around to encourage their partner to change and adapt to a new relationship. They are no longer there to act as a buffer between them. They are also no longer around to reassure them that they can trust another person.
In short, a divorced person feels completely abandoned. Children who see their parents go through divorce can develop their own fear of commitment because they believe they will go through the same experience.
When young and considering those first dates, they may have been afraid of the consequences of breaking up with a potential girlfriend or boyfriend, so they stayed away from that kind of situation. And as they aged, the inability to trust may factor into the equation more so, and they think that they will never have a happy marriage and avoid anyone once that initial spark is lit in their minds.
If a person experienced a bad breakup when dating, they may decide to forego relationships for a while. Sometimes the reason for this is that they believe that they will never find someone who will love them as much as their ex-partner did.
Also, they may have been mentally hurt badly by the breakup. By having a fear of being hurt again, they may be afraid of the commitment required in a relationship. This fear can also cause them to be hesitant to make their feelings known to the people who are interested in them. Over time though, this can lead to an irrational fear if they don’t put themselves in the dating scene again.
Gamophobia can be a scary thing, but it can be overcome. Many who suffer from this anxiety find resolution through replacing negative perceptions of relationships or marriage with positive ones.
How we perceive relationship experiences can have a major impact on what we think about future relationships and dwelling on the negative can create the fear that a healthy relationship isn’t an option.
Studying the Bible and placing your fears in God’s hands is always the best solution. You can also talk with a Christian counselor as well as join a Christian Meditation Group.
Talking with Christians can lead to a change of mind and help you understand why you’re experiencing the anxiety.
Closing Comments
People with gamophobia are afraid of being hurt. If someone breaks up with them, they are afraid that they will never be loved or cared for again.
People with gamophobia usually have high anxiety levels. If they are in a relationship, they may fear that their partner will leave them. They may fear that if their partner leaves them, they will be lost and not know how to deal with the pain.
Fear of being left behind has been a problem for humans throughout the years. Some people are afraid to commit to a relationship. Others are afraid of being abandoned. People who fear abandonment tend to avoid commitment.
They have trouble asking for what they want. They think that rejection will happen. They believe they will fail. People who fear abandonment feel nervous around others because they think that they will leave them. They feel anxious about being alone. People with gamophobia are reluctant to date or get involved in relationships. They also have trouble saying “yes” to something new.
They are afraid to make changes in their life because they are scared of failing. This can keep them from moving forward.
People with gamophobia are afraid of being hurt. If someone breaks up with them, they are afraid that they will never be loved or cared for again.
People with gamophobia usually have high anxiety levels. If they are in a relationship, they may fear that their partner will leave them. They may fear that if their partner leaves them, they will be lost and not know how to deal with the pain.
However, gamophobia can be overcome. Positive thoughts need to replace the negative. Meditation and prayer to our heavenly Father will help. Seeking help and guidance from Christians should be sought. Also, dating only Christians will build your faith in God and place God at the centerpiece of the relationship. This is the best path to choose.
Many who suffer from this anxiety find resolution through replacing negative perceptions of relationships or marriage with positive ones. As Christians, we have Our God to turn to for help.
I’m Lori Stith, The Stoicess
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