November 7, 2022
“You’re not spending any time with us since you got THAT partner” … say your friends.
“Why do you always choose to spend time with your friends over me” … says your partner.
It’s like every day is loaded with an onslaught of battles coming at you from different directions. And it’s coming from the people who are supposed to care about you.
How do you make the choice among those you love?
Who comes first?
For you, you focus on taking care of yourself first. Doing so increases your mental strength. Your empowerment. Because you consider such requests for your time to be tasks.
As such, you complete one task at a time. For example, spending time with your partner and then moving to the next task of spending time with your friends. And while you’re performing a task, you don’t dwell on the other tasks that are waiting in the queue for your attention. You just methodically move from one to the next as the tasks have been placed in order by You.
In doing so, you stay focused on the task you’re in, find the fun in it, and when done you simply move on.
It’s the same procedure you follow when dealing with battles you’re confronted with while on the job.
Because Life’s too short. There’s so much you want to do.
And you’ve got better things to do with your remaining time than worrying about others interrupting your priorities.
You are free. You are being You.
Now using My S-T-O-I-C STORYTELLING method:
(S) I feel pulled between spending time alone between my partner and my friends. How can I find the positive in this?
(T) “There is no virtue in putting up with that which one does not feel.” Seneca
“Do not conform to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind.” Apostle Paul
(O) I decided to focus on satisfying my needs first when making decisions about sharing my time.
(I) I realized that life is made up of pleasures and pain and by getting my mind in order first, things requiring my attention will run smoother.
(C) The character trait that I improved was being even-minded and satisfied with my decisions.
The Stoicess’ Secret:
To pull yourself together, always live in calmer weather.
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