Should I Date for Potential or Reality? - Stoic Matchmaker

Dating for Potential or Reality?

Dating for Potential or Reality?

September 26, 2022

Should I Date for Potential or Reality?

They are the ALMOST perfect person!  Gorgeous, smart—everything anyone could want, but with one blemish. They’re missing that special something. They haven’t found themselves totally and until they do, they’ll never gain everything this world has to offer. They just need that special someone who believes in them and is willing to push them to their full potential. “And who is this ALMOST perfect person you are looking at?” Well, it’s You. Instead of looking at how another person can be improved, you look at yourself and how you can improve.

You see, some would say that the whole point of dating is to get to know someone else on a more personal level. For you, dating is about learning more about You – getting to know yourself on a more personal level. And the more people you date, the more you learn what you actually want in a partner as you learn more about yourself. You find it’s a way for you to learn what moves you to tears, to rage, and to love. 

Dating helps you figure out what really matters to you now, as well as those less important things you can shrug off and deal with. You also improve your resilience in getting past those relationships that do fail and your acceptance that you don’t control anyone except you. And that includes the potential to improve YOU! 


Now using My S-T-O-I-C STORYTELLING method:

(S) Should I date for potential or reality?
(T) “The reason why we have two ears and only one mouth is so we might listen more and talk less.” Zeno of Citium
“If you commit yourself to the Lord and trust Him, He will accomplish His will for you.” Book of Psalms
(O) I decided to take my time and observe more.
(I) I realized if I paid more attention, I could learn what reality is versus the full potential.
(C) The character trait I improved was to be more observant of myself when dating.


The Stoicess’ Secret?

When dating, choose potential over reality for the best you.

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