January 13, 2023
Intentional dating means dating with a purpose: Getting to know someone to discover if their goals and future plans align with yours. Of course, the best way to accomplish this is through deep and meaningful conversation, which is sometimes easier said than done.
When it comes to being romantic with a special someone, you should try to make it memorable. The best way to do this is through thoughtful conversations. You can talk about how you feel, what you believe in, and what you like. You may want to talk about what kind of person you think that the person is, or what he or she thinks of you.
These conversations can be fun, and you can learn a lot about each other through these conversations. It is also important that you have fun while you are talking to your date. This is because you will want to have a positive and fun experience with that person.
Of course, it is important that you are polite, but you don’t have to be overly formal. It can also be a good idea to ask your date about him or her and get to know him or her better. You may find out that your date likes something that you dislike, or vice versa.
While lulls in conversation are only natural and to be expected, you can plan ahead with ways to spark engaging discussions with these dating conversation tips.
Asking interesting and open-ended questions is a great way to spark discourse during a date. You can hit a conversational wall by only asking yes or no questions, so try to keep the discussion moving by asking for follow-up details on topics such as travel plans, career goals, and childhood memories. This inspires a natural back-and-forth dialogue while giving you some insight into their background and life.
And with open-ended questions, you’ll never know how the other person will answer. So it’s better if you ask them a question that is not only fun to answer, but also a conversation starter. A fun question to ask is something like, “Do you have any favorite foods?”
You can ask them about their childhood. There might be stories to tell if they share them with you. Try to keep the conversation flowing by asking follow-up questions to keep things interesting. You might be surprised by what you learn about them.
You might be asked to do small favors for them too. Be sure to return the favor by paying attention to them. Do not make it obvious that you are not listening to them by looking bored, frowning, or doing other things. Listen to them intently and make sure that they know that you care about them.
Be polite, and keep in mind that they just might like you. And the next time you meet, try to remember their answers to your prior questions. Make sure that you ask different questions this subsequent time you meet.
It’s one thing to ask about your date’s life, it’s another thing to listen well.
Most of the time, people ask questions in order to show off. They want you to pay attention to them instead of the things going on around you. It’s just like in school. You have a classmate that is always talking and asking questions. They talk so much that they don’t really seem to know what they are saying. They ask questions but they don’t listen to their classmates’ answers. And the questions they ask are just a way to show off. Thus, they probably don’t really care to know about their date’s life. In fact, some of the questions they ask are to make their date feel stupid.
However, if you’re a good listener, you will understand what your date is trying to say. If you’re a good listener, you will use your ears to hear them. That’s what good listeners do. It’s called active listening. Active listening shows interest in what other people are saying. And when you do ask follow-up questions, it’s to understand more about your date.
Thus, active listening is the process of paying attention while someone is speaking. Active listeners let the other person know that they are listening and that they want to know what the other person has to say. They also help the other person feel understood and appreciated. They make eye contact with the other person.
Active listeners are interested in what the other person is saying, and they make sure the other person knows that. They also try to understand what the other person is saying by listening carefully. It makes your date feel important. If they feel like they’re being heard, it will encourage them to open up to you and ask about your life in return.
Active listening is also involved listening. As the listener, the active listener lets the other person finish talking, and then will add something to the conversation, without being demeaning to their date.
The bottom line? If you want to get along with someone, you should be an active listener.
Giving compliments to your date is a flirtatious way to spark genuine conversation. When you compliment someone, you are giving them a sincere gift of praise. Everyone likes receiving compliments.
You should tell your date about something they’ve done right or something that they’ve done for you. Or think of something that you like about them and bring it up naturally. For example, if they’re wearing an interesting T-shirt or piece of jewelry, compliment them and then ask them what the story is behind it.
Alternatively, you can tell them about a quality that they have, such as being thoughtful or nice or about their personality traits, such as their sense of humor or positive energy. You can also compliment them on something you admire about them, such as a strength they have or their loyalty. Tell them you like how they treat people.
Complimenting your date is a way to help them feel good about themselves. When you compliment them, you are showing them that you really appreciate them. This can help them feel more comfortable around you. They will be more likely to open up and share personal information with you.
It’s important to get to know your date and find out if you’re on the same page about major life goals, such as marriage and children. If you’re looking for a serious relationship with marriage as the goal, it’s important to be honest about your values and what you want in your life.
Finding a potential match is very difficult. It’s very important to be honest about yourself and what you want. Once you’ve established a connection, it’s good to stay in touch regularly. If you make a commitment, don’t change your mind.
So, share the things that are important to you and encourage your date to do the same. Remember, though, not to let the conversation get too serious, and have fun!
And if they have children, you can also check out our blog on questions to ask someone who has kids.
I’m Lori Stith, The Stoicess
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