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Dating Safety Tips that Keep You From Danger

Dating Safety Tips that Keep You From Danger

February 10, 2023

Dating Safety Tips that Keep You From Danger

Christian Intentional dating and searching for your future spouse can be a fun and exciting season of life. And given the popularity of dating websites and apps, meeting someone new is quite easier than ever.

Now that online dating has become popular, you can start dating with ease and without having to worry about what people think about you. Online dating has made it so easy to find someone you want to date. However, you’ll now likely be going on a date with someone you’ve never met, so safety should be your top priority.

A lot of people out there will try to take advantage of you or your money. Keep in mind that sometimes they will try to do things that are illegal.

There are a lot of scams and lies that people put out there on the internet. With you not knowing the person completely, you should still be cautious about having that first date with them. Many people will lie about who they are and what they look like. For instance, they may say that they are older than they are or younger than they are. Some people will lie about their weight and height. Some will lie about their marital status or deny having children. These are things that you should watch out for when you meet someone new as a potential dating partner. Be very careful about who you trust.

Also, keep in mind that most people who meet online are looking for casual dates or friends, and not a serious relationship. Be sure that you’re comfortable with who you’re talking to before you start getting too personal. If you decide that you want to meet up with someone, make sure that you do your research and figure out who they are beforehand. This will allow you to be pre-prepared and increase the likelihood that you’re going to meet the person that you wanted to meet.

Keep reading this blog for more safety tips to prepare your mind for your first date with that special person.


Make Your Own Way


When meeting that special person for the first time, you should always be careful. Always ask questions and let your instincts guide you.

For example, instead of having your date pick you up at home, arrange your own transportation. And never go anywhere you aren’t comfortable.

If you feel uncomfortable at any point or things aren’t going well, it’ll be easier to make a quick exit if you’re not relying on them to get home. It’s also safer if your date doesn’t know where you live until getting to know them a bit better.


Meet in a Public Place


Another safety tip is to go to a public place and not a private location. This way, you will be able to leave without being hindered if something happens and you want to get away from them quickly.

If your date insists on coming to your place or invites you to theirs, this could be a warning sign that something isn’t right.

If you are planning to meet someone at his or her place, it is important to know where it is. Don’t meet someone for the first time at a stranger’s house or car. Be careful of your surroundings and be aware of your personal safety.

However, I suggest you be extremely wary of people who want to meet you privately. The reason is that this person may have ulterior motives. It’s much safer to meet in a crowded place, such as a restaurant or coffee shop, so that you’re not alone if a potentially unsafe situation arises.

You should avoid walking alone in dark places and keep an eye on your personal belongings. You should also be cautious about the things you talk about. And always pay close attention to your date when you are out and about.

When meeting at a public place, make sure that your windows and doors are locked when you are driving, particularly when in a crowded town or location. When you are going to a new place, you should be careful about what happens to you when you arrive. Pay attention to signs, watch out for people who don’t seem right, and don’t carry anything heavy when you are walking. You should always try to keep your hands free.


Tell Someone


If you’ve just met someone new, don’t try to be sneaky about it. Don’t be ashamed to tell someone that you are about to go on a date with someone. It’s important to let others know your whereabouts including when you will return. And for ladies, tell those you trust the full name of the person you are dating, where they live, email address, and any other personal information about this date that would be relevant in case you go missing.

You might want to call or text a parent, older sibling, or trusted friend while on that first date so that they know you are safe. Irrespective, don’t be afraid to let people know what you are doing. Be confident and let them know where you are going. Make them aware of how long you will be away so that they can let other people know.

You can make this easier by setting a time to text messages like, “I’m on my way”, “I’m in the restaurant”, “I’m leaving the restaurant and should be back home by 11,” and “I’m safely home now”. This lets others know you arrived safely, when you’ll be returning, and when they can expect to see you again. Even if you are not sure of the details or don’t want to give specifics, you can give a general idea of the location you are to meet at and when you anticipate arriving home.

Letting others know what you’re doing can also help you protect yourself from unwanted advances or harassment. Let the date know you are communicating with a trusted love one of your whereabouts. If the date cares about you, your safety will be of utmost importance to them.

Let at least one friend or family member know your date’s full name and where you are meeting. If you decide to continue your date somewhere else, text someone where you’re going and check in when you get home.


Talk Beforehand


If possible, arrange to video chat with your date if you’ve never met them in person before. If you have any uncomfortableness about a person before you decide to meet them, ask them questions and make sure you get a good feeling about them. Let your instincts guide you. Watch their eyes and body language closely. Most people’s sixth sense will alert them to the fact that someone is being untruthful. Watch his or her eyes and body language. This way, you’ll increase the likelihood that they are legitimate based on their profile.


Stay Sober


Avoiding alcohol on a date helps you maintain a clear head and make smart decisions. If you do have a drink, be careful of the amount you consume and the alcohol percentage of the drink(s). Remember, alcohol can affect your judgment. If you’re not careful, you may say or do something that you will regret later on. Don’t get behind the wheel and make sure to stay hydrated. Furthermore, pay attention to how much your date drinks as well—it could be a potential red flag.


Make It a Double Date


One of the safest ways to meet a new, unknown person on that first date is to make it a double date. In this way, you will have trusted friends with you to keep you safe in case things go wrong. Additionally, if you do this, your friends will most likely be able to help you out when an off-guard situation comes upon you. I’d suggest having your friends be your designated driver(s) for the evening. This procedure will allow you to get away quickly if something doesn’t work out. And if you feel uncomfortable at any point, you’ll be able to leave quickly by not relying on that new date to get you safely home.


Closing Comments

Dating can and should be fun, but it’s essential to take steps to ensure your safety. Such is particularly true for a first date with someone you do not know.

Dating is like walking into a jungle. You have to be careful and cautious when you go out there. You should never assume that the person you are going out with is trustworthy. Even though your date seems like a good person, he or she may be planning to do something bad to you.

You should avoid situations that make you uncomfortable. If you feel you aren’t being treated with respect, you should leave immediately. It is a good idea to have someone else along with you.

Following these simple precautions means you can focus on what’s important: Getting to know your date and deciding if their lifestyle and goals are a good fit with yours.

However, remember that in the end, your safety ALWAYS comes first.

I’m Lori Stith, The Stoicess
Your Christian Life Coach
AND I believe in YOU!


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