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How to Diffuse an Argument

How to Diffuse an Argument

July 27, 2022

How to Diffuse an Argument

Arguments — we’ve all been there. No matter what the argument was about, it probably didn’t feel very good. In fact, it probably only left you feeling frustrated, angry, and exhausted. If only we all knew how to diffuse an argument before it even started. 

With the tips below, you’ll have ways to take the sizzle out of a heated conversation and keep the peace in your home.

Stay Calm and Rational

This one is easier said than done. Just take a moment and assess the situation. Yelling will only make the situation worse and make it harder to resolve, so take a deep breath and try to keep your cool.

Listen to What the Other Person Is Saying 

Acknowledge your partner’s feelings and try to see things from their perspective. It’s easy to get wrapped up in your own point of view and ignore what the other person is saying, but if you can take a step back and really listen to what they’re saying, you may be able to find some common ground.

Don’t Bring Up Past Arguments or Criticize Your Partner

If you want to diffuse an argument, you need to focus on the here and now. Bringing up past arguments will only make things worse, so focus on the present and try to find a way to move forward.

Offer a Compromise if Possible

If you’re both willing to budge a little, it may be possible to find a solution that satisfies everyone. This isn’t always possible, but it’s worth trying if it means diffusing the argument.

Above All, Respect One Another

Next time an argument starts to brew, take a step back and remember these four tips. They may not always work, but it’s always better to focus on repairing things instead of focusing on “winning”. After all, does anyone really win if it damages your relationship?

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