Ex-partner Has a Childish Relationship with Our Grown Son

February 8, 2023

Ex-partner Has a Childish Relationship with Our Grown Son

It’s graduation day for your child! And you thought you’d never make it here.

You and the Ex broke up years ago, and it’s been a tug-a-war in raising your child as co-parents. Finding common ground on how to raise the child wasn’t easy. The ex-partner spoiled the child while you practiced mentoring and restraint in the upbringing. To say the two of you have different ideas on how parenting should be done would be an understatement indeed.

For you, you guided your child as if you were the only parent when you and the Ex failed to reach an agreement on how to raise your child. Your training with the Stoicess taught you to be strong and stand on your own – how to take smart risks and how to deal with failure with no coddling once your child reached adulthood. And, in return, you became the “no fun” parent, as you were frequently called.

You see, despite your child’s earlier resentment, your teachings to the child were one of the most selfless things you could do as a parent. Your child became independent. So, they can now survive when you and the Ex are not here any longer on this earth to assist. Thus, your tough-love approach wins in the long run because you love your now “adult” child dearly.

And by the way, before taking all the credit, you found that over time your Ex changed and did some pitching in as well. What a beautiful child you and the Ex caused to blossom into an adult … together.

Now using My S-T-O-I-C Storytelling Meditation method:

(S) My ex-partner treats our grown son like a child, what should I do?
(T) “When I became a man, I put away childish things.” Apostle Paul
(O) I decided not to focus on what the Ex was doing and concentrate on how to handle things my way.
(I) I realized I could make our adult child stronger by not treating them like a child.
(C) The character trait I improved was placing values and confidence in our adult child while taking the “no fun parent” scolding.

The Stoicess’ Secret:

“Train as an adult” is the motto for my child, for when older, I’ll receive kudos because they’re not wild.  

I’m Lori Stith, The Stoicess
Your Christian Life Coach
AND I believe in YOU!

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