How do I build my partner’s trust in me? - Stoic Matchmaker

How do I build my partner’s trust in me?

How do I build my partner’s trust in me?

May 2, 2022

You had been dating for only a few months when your ONE fell on bad times.

His injury was causing him to be unable to stay caught up on his bills.

He needed someone to help manage the money he’d saved up for a crisis—a true rainy day—such a day like the current one.

You saw he was becoming desperate for help… and knew you had the ability to handle the job. But you had been staying quiet on this point; letting him reach his own decision.

Several times you asked myself, “How would you convince him to trust you enough to turn over his cash box key to you?”
You had no answer, so you continued to maintain your silence.

One evening he looked over at you and said, “I need you to help me in paying my bills… I need you to take over my money. I know you will do right by me”.

You were dumbfounded.
 “Of course, I will help,” you said…. “But why me?”

He responded:
“I share my mind with you daily. Whatever hair-brained ideas I might give you, you always are supportive. You constantly treat me with respect and give me wisdom while leading me to the right answer… You DO lead me—we both know that! And whenever you’ve needed my help, you asked without hesitation. The trust you place in me to do right, by you, is Unbelievable. If all that is not enough, everyone else has been telling me to let them help by putting their fingers into my cookie jar and you haven’t mentioned a word about my money. Because you’ve always Trusted Me, I’ll now show my trust in YOU— and definitely NOT Them!”

Now using My S-T-O-I-C STORYTELLING method:

(S) How do I build another’s trust in my leadership?
(T) “We must indeed have someone according to whom we may regulate our characters.” Seneca
(O) By constantly being consistent in my actions of showing respect and trust for another as we travel side by side through life’s difficulties, I was proving to be a trusted leader.
(I)I realized by giving my all to another’s cause was showing that I was trustworthy to the other.
(C) The character trait that I improved was determination in seeing things through for another on the small stuff, before my REAL help was needed during a crisis.

The Stoicess’ Secret?
Always Showing Trust with Your Leadership Holds the Mood

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