How do I cope with losing my beloved?

How do I cope with losing my beloved?

May 16, 2022

It all seemed like a fairy tale come true. The past few months were like living in Camelot. Each day was the absolute best of times. We laughed, we sang, we held hands, we teased, and we had deep conversations. We were at the pinnacle of enjoying life together.

That is until I awoke one morning to a text saying, “I’m breaking up with you, but we can still be friends”.

My mind went blank. I was devastated. I was humiliated.
I thought to myself, “What will my friends think?” “I told them just yesterday, that I couldn’t be happier in my current relationship?”

For me, when facing this “gut-wrenching” situation, I was determined to focus on the positive experience I had. I realized I may have lost him in my day-to-day existence, but that I would never lose those feelings we shared together for the past few months.

I considered it a blessing to have experienced what some would call “puppy love”. I also learned that love can be a blessing and a curse. We are blessed that we got to experience wonderful feelings with another but cursed as there is heartache once it is lost.

However, I now know the feeling that another will have to arise in me in order to gain my favor. For I learned a new happiness and this IS the way I will spend my life once finding My Trusted Friend. 

Now using My S-T-O-I-C STORYTELLING method:

(S) How do I cope with a stressful personal loss?   

(T) “Sometimes even to live is an act of courage.” Seneca
(O) As much as I didn’t want to go on, life continues.
(I) I had to pull myself together and keep on living even though it seemed impossible.
(C) The character trait that I improved was perseverance in the face of humiliation.

The Stoicess’ Secret?
Puppy Love may teach you a new happiness.

Remember: “It’s the Situation Keeping My Connection with Him”.

I’m Lori Stith, The Stoicess, and I believe in You!

Here’s the video link if you’d like to watch it: https://youtu.be/9KMHBjzDUlY

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