How to Establish a Quiet Time as a Couple

How to Establish a Quiet Time as a Couple

February 23, 2022

Our obligations pull us in many different directions over the course of a week. Many times we find ourselves tucked into the current with one holding our schedule like a life support ring as we are carried downstream. As a Christian, it can be difficult to find the time for prayer if we aren’t innately focused, and even more difficult is how to establish a quiet time as a couple. We’ve got a few tips to put you on the right track and take control of your prayer life. 

Create a List

Finding a way to set aside time to pray is fairly straightforward if you keep a list of items that you want to pray about. It’s more about creating a habit that will motivate you to pray. Instead of seeing problems at work and dealing with them by yourself in your own way, use them as opportunities. Start a prayer list and notate what happens during your day when items to pray about raise their head. A problem with a coworker, that meeting next Friday, or the looming deadline are perfect candidates for your prayer list. 

Establish a Time

With list in hand, establish a day and time that works for you and your spouse to meet and pray. This may be each day or a couple of times a week. Whatever you choose, commit to praying together. The important thing is to make time for it. If we make time for it, then it’s important. 

Communication is Key

If you and your spouse have open communication lines that include opportunities and praises on a regular basis for both of you, then you have the kindling you need to establish a quiet time together. The key is to communicate these items to each other. Establish a time each day where you take a few minutes to discuss the items on your list so you both know what’s important to pray about. 

Couple Goals

Your list shouldn’t be all about each of your own lists but should include your goals as a couple too. These things could be goals for your marriage, kids, finances, vacations, ministry, or anything else that is important to your relationship. Discussing these items regularly and praying about them together ensures that you’re both on the same page. 

Using these small steps and creating a routine will have a major impact on your prayer life as a couple. If you miss an established prayer time, don’t beat yourself up. Start again and go from there. With time, you’ll see the impact on your relationship and the spiritual progress you’ll both make together. 

Remember: “It’s the Situation Keeping My Connection with Him”.

I’m Lori Stith, The Stoicess, and I believe in You!

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