How to Help My Children Not Feel My Stress

How to Help My Children Not Feel My Stress

January 19, 2022

It was another one of those days on the job. As you travel home, all you can think about is the boss, that lousy meeting, and what your future will look like tomorrow.

On arriving home and entering the house, you find that your children eagerly await seeing you. They’re calling your name, tugging at your clothes. They want their “me time” with you. However, the stresses of the day are still on your mind, and without realizing it, you start taking it out on your little ones.

We all have stressors in adulthood, whether emotional, work, or relationship-related. We must realize, though, that these adulthood stresses are not the weights for our children to carry. Our children need that childhood time to learn themselves and their capabilities. It is a time for their learning curve, a vertical learning curve I might add, so they develop correctly and are prepared for their upcoming adult journey.

And as parents, an important responsibility we bear is to protect our children from those adult issues they have no way to comprehend. 

For me, I train daily with My People so I can avoid taking home the stresses of the day. I spend a few minutes addressing the Helpline request, giving my Socrates challenge for the day, and reviewing the responses from others to refocus my mind. Some of the training I save to the end of my workday, so my mind is rejuvenated before meeting the ones I love most.

So, when returning home to my children and before entering the door, I always place my stress in a box with a tight lid on it. I spend my time with my children, enjoying our fellowship, keeping their well-being first and foremost. 

I let my children be children.

Now using My S-T-O-I-C STORYTELLING method:

(S) How to help my children not feel my stress?

(T) “When I was a child, I talked like a child, I thought like a child, I reasoned like a child.” Apostle Paul

(O) I control my emotions so as not to affect my children.

(I) I set the stage for my children’s future growth by controlling my emotions.

(C) The character trait that I improved on was remaining happy when spending precious time with my little ones.

The Stoicess’ Secret?

When with your little ones, put away adult matters.

Remember: “It’s the Situation Keeping My Connection with Him”.

I’m Lori Stith, The Stoicess, and I believe in You!

Here’s the video link if you’d like to watch.

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