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How to help my children not feel my stress

How to help my children not feel my stress

May 30, 2022

It was another one of those days on the job. As you travel home, all you can think about is the boss, that bad meeting, and what your future will look like tomorrow.

On arriving home and entering the house, you find that your children are eagerly awaiting to see you. They’re calling your name, tugging at your clothes. They want their “me time” with you. However, the stresses of the day are still on your mind and without realizing it, you start taking it out on your little ones.

We all have stressors in adulthood whether it be emotional, work, or relationship. However, these adulthood stresses are not the weights for our children to carry. They need that childhood time to learn about themselves, and their capabilities. It is a time for their learning curve, a vertical learning curve as we know, so they develop correctly and are prepared for their upcoming adult journey. And as parents, an important responsibility we bare is to protect our children from those adult issues which they have no way to comprehend.

For you, when returning home to your children, and before entering the door, you always place your personal stresses in a box with a tight lid on it. You spend your time being with your children, enjoying your fellowship, and keeping their well-being first and foremost.

You let your children be children.

Now using My S-T-O-I-C STORYTELLING method:

(S) How to help my children not feel my stress.
(T) “When I was a child, I talked like a child, I thought like a child, I reasoned like a child.” Apostle Paul
(O) I tried to have control over my emotions so as not to affect my children.
(I) By controlling my emotions, I set the stage for my children’s future growth.
(C) The character trait that I improved was remaining calm when spending precious time with my little ones.

The Stoicess’ Secret?
When with your little ones, put away adult matters

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