January 23, 2023
You just went through a breakup in your relationship. You’re mad, upset, and bitter. What did they do to you? Waste your time? Take you for granted? Cheat on you?
How could they do that to you? After all the compromises, and the sacrifices, you made for them.
Key their car or flatten their tires as the country song goes? How about ruining their next relationship? It’s bitter resentment taking hold of your mind.
And how do you avoid resentment when you still think about that person regularly – numerous times daily with almost every action you take? Even at the grocery, it still crosses your mind about what they would want.
However, from your training with the Stoicess, you’ve come to realize there’s an underlying problem with resentment — It can suck you in like quicksand and take you to some very dark places. And the reality is, that none of those options benefit you, and that is the key…YOU.
So, your solution is to re-discover who you are as an individual now. Each day you make progress to transition from a “we to an I”. From an “us to a me”. And by changing the scenery to focus on yourself, you find that with time and distance, the frequency of your thoughts about them fades away as you ready your heart for the next person who meets your test of a Trusted Friend.
Now using My S-T-O-I-C Storytelling Meditation method:
(S) How do I not be resentful after a breakup?
(T) “No man is free who is not master of himself.” Marcus Aurelius
“He who is slow to wrath has great understanding, but he who is impulsive exalts folly.” Book of Proverbs
(O) I decided to leave the past behind and focus on myself.
(I) I realized that what’s done is done, and it’s time for a new beginning.
(C) The character trait I improved was curiosity in new things to transition myself to a new me.
I’m Lori Stith, The Stoicess
Your Christian Life Coach
AND I believe in YOU!
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