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Looking Awkward

Looking Awkward

October 3, 2022

Looking Awkward

The two of you have been dating for a while and you’re clicking quite nicely. They seem to get you as much as you get them. They are becoming quite close to you. Before long your friends begin pushing you to let them meet the mystery person. ”Your Precious” is the name they’re teasingly called.

So you share Your Precious with them during a weekend outing. Afterward, you think to yourself, “That went well. I’m sure they were quite impressed”. However, the next day, their version unfolds. “Couldn’t you find something better? That person’s not good enough for you. Haven’t you paid attention to how awkward they are?”

You feel embarrassed, rejected, and wonder how you’re going to justify Your Precious to them. It’s like bringing a first date home to your parents for approval. Everything you thought you wanted in a person is completely opposite of their expectation.

And how do you handle this? You realize that those doing the evaluation do not always have your best interests at heart. They’re looking at how you must conform to their standards, and the group’s standards, and apparently, Your Precious is upsetting the group’s apple cart because of the change that will likely occur in you. 

So, you respond to them by saying, “Now, it’s my turn to evaluate YOU!” If you respect me, you’ll respect My Precious, because for now, My Precious is a part of me. And Get comfortable with the awkwardness; It’s currently the NEW ME”!

Now using My S-T-O-I-C STORYTELLING method:

(S) How do I stop looking so awkward in front of others?
(T) “Whatever makes you feel uncomfortable is your biggest opportunity for growth.” Bryant McGill
“Do not be conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewal of your mind, that by testing you may discern what is the will of God, what is good and acceptable and perfect.” Apostle Paul
(O) I decided to build my confidence up by trying new and different things.
(I) I realized that everything starts somewhere and if I didn’t make my own choices, I would never develop confidence in myself.
(C) The character trait that I improved was gaining confidence in the choices I personally make.


The Stoicess’ Secret?

Looking awkward is not a character flaw.


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