February 22, 2023
It was a tough divorce. Much fighting from both sides. Mom went out on her own. Dad went into a deep depression. As time passed, you found yourself caught in the middle – as one parent continually put the other down when talking with you. It’s as if you’re being told to choose sides between the two.
For you, from your training with the Stoicess, you tell them both that you seek role models that you can look up to for guidance and support, whether it be in a parent or a friend. You see, your training with the Stoicess has taught you to consider such tactics to be a childhood game where two of your best friends get into an argument, and you’re dragged into their mess as you’re told you must choose a side.
It is pure selfishness. A bold attempt to drag you into a situation without realizing it’s hard enough for you to watch them “going at it”.
So, as you tell your friends, you now tell your parents the same: “You two need to work this out without my help, and if either of you misbehaves in front of me, I’ll put some distance between us, so you’ll understand the impact on Your life without having me in it.”
It’s my “tough love” toward my elders.
S: My parents are divorced, and one of them constantly puts the other one down in front of me, what should I do?
T: “Difficulties show a person’s character.” Epictetus
“Train a child in a way that he should go, and when he is old, he will not turn from it.” Proverbs 22:6
O: I decided to apply “tough love” toward my parents.
I: I realized that this parent does not handle difficulties well, and I’ll try not to follow their lead when I face difficulties in life.
C: The character trait that I improved was courage, understanding, and clarity.
“Tough love” for your kids works quite well toward your elders too.
I’m Lori Stith, The Stoicess
Your Christian Life Coach
AND I believe in YOU!
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