October 24, 2022
Have you ever been told by another that they met someone that they really clicked with but were not quite physically attracted to them? They felt the person is everything they want – very nice, intelligent, and just the sweetest person ever – but they just don’t do it for them. So, they ask for your opinion, “should I let them go or tell them ‘Let’s just be friends’?” You then share your wisdom with them.
For you, you’ve learned to focus on the friendship aspect. Even if it doesn’t seem like it’s a romantic relationship, you’ve found it can be a wonderful friendship and may even grow into more than one could imagine. And it’s because you know that everyone needs that one person they can count on. Someone they can share their thoughts and experiences with. Someone they can laugh with. Someone they can share life with. It’s that “trusted friend” as the stoics call them.
And by the way, you also know that many have been ugly ducklings in their early years but as they became older, they turned into beautiful swans. For you take to heart the words, “Love takes time, love is patient, and love is kind”. And with those words, if you find someone that is great of mind, you hold onto them because you never know when your attraction for them may blossom, and you will have obtained a prize indeed.
(S) I connected with a great person, but I’m not attracted to them. What should I do?
(T) “Tranquility can’t be grasped except by those who have reached an unwavering and firm power of judgment — the rest constantly fall and rise in their decisions, wavering in a state of alternately rejecting and accepting things. What is the cause of this back and forth? It’s because nothing is clear and they rely on the most uncertain guide: common opinion.” Seneca
“We walk by faith, not by sight.” Apostle Paul
(O) I decided to keep them in my life.
(I) I realized that just because I’m not currently attracted to someone physically, the attraction could grow by knowing them mentally.
(C) The character trait that I improved on was being open-minded, optimistic, and patient.
Ugly ducklings become the Most beautiful Swans in the Mind of the beholder.
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