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Winning the One I Want

Winning the One I Want

November 21, 2022

Ever watch others trying to win someone – that prize everyone wants? They chatter constantly like a squawking bird, trying to keep the prize’s attention by being longer and louder than others. But the others don’t give up. They dive in when a breath is taken. And the poor soul being twirled around, the Prize, has the look of a child watching an Alice in Wonderland® adventure.

For you, you sit back and watch the adventure in silence. You pay attention to the information exchanged while learning what the prize appears to like. Because you know that by not speaking, it creates a fascination in the prize’s mind. The prize wants to know if you’re smart, caring, and what’s going on in that noggin of yours.

And when asked a question by the prize, you speak confidently, straightforwardly, and make it short. Your words are like a song to their ears, touching on their pain points, their love points, their excitement points. It’s from the knowledge you gleaned from watching the earlier adventure.

So now, you are wanted. The powerplay has changed hands. You become Their Prize and have the power to decide if a relationship between the two of you will develop.


Now using My S-T-O-I-C STORYTELLING method:

(S) How can I work more effectively to win the one I want when so many others are competing?
(T) “Let silence be your goal for the most part; say only what is necessary, and be brief about it.” Epictetus
“Even a fool who keeps silent is considered wise; when he closes his lips, he is deemed intelligent.” Book of Proverbs
(O) I remained silent and watched the adventure unfold.
(I) I realized that by remaining silent, knowledge can be gained.
(C) The character trait I improved was being a good listener.


The Stoicess’ Secret?

When the birds are squawking, remain silent and listen to their talking.

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