10 Great First Date Questions 10 Great First Date Questions

10 Great First Date Questions

A first date is a great opportunity to find out more about someone. Besides picking a great place to go or fun activity to do, you’ve got to be able to have a good conversation with the person you’re meeting. 

The last thing you want is awkward silences and staring off into space, watching the minutes tick by without meaningful conversation. No date needs to happen like that. 

To have a great conversation, you need a starting point, a launching pad if you will, that will lead to other topics and discoveries along the way. 

Here are 10 great first-date questions to help you discover more about that mysterious person you’re seeing.

  1. What do you like to do in your free time?

Nothing gets someone to open up like talking about themselves, especially their hobbies or interests. This can help break the ice. 

  1. Are you more of an introvert or extrovert?

Although you may discover this without asking the question, posing this question can give you insight into why they may be one or the other. 

  1. What’s something you’d like to learn or be better at?

This question can help you see and understand your date’s aspirations in an area of their life, some of the things they value, or activities where they want to improve.

  1. What TV series or movies do you find yourself returning to and rewatching?

This one may help you discover common bonds in film and TV. You may even want to share your own list.

  1. Who is your best friend and why? 

Most people have a best friend they rely on. Some interesting follow-up questions might be: How did you two meet? How long have you been friends? How often do you get to see them?

  1. Among all of your friends, what are you best known for?

You could even treat this as a game by filing the answer away and asking the same question later to their friends when you meet them. 

  1. Do you have any projects that you’re working on that you’re passionate about?

This could even turn into a life goal type of conversation and can give you insight into where they want to go in their career or life. 

To keep the conversation light-hearted, you might even throw in a couple of the following questions. 

  1. Have you ever attempted telepathic communication with your dog?

Yeah, cheezy, but you can still get information with this one. Your date will most likely be quick to say they don’t like dogs or prefer other pets Or who knows, maybe they are the next Dog Whisperer. 

  1. What is your favorite vacation spot and why?

This can open up a whole avenue of conversation about travel.

  1. What’s your favorite type of food?

Another good one because you’ll probably be spending time eating at some point during your date. 

And there you have it! Ten great first-date questions to kickstart the conversation and learn more about each other. Prepare yourself and go out there to have some fun!

3 Great First Date Ideas 3 Great First Date Ideas

3 Great First Date Ideas

great first date ideas

If you think about it, first dates are more important than people think: how well this goes will determine whether a second date is still in the cards. Most people go out for coffee or watch a movie. If you want some great first date ideas, here are three unique ones that are worth trying out: 

Play Board Games

Contrary to popular belief, board games aren’t just for nerds and there’s more than just Monopoly. Board games don’t always have boards and there are tons of entertaining ones that are specifically designed for couples to play. It’s a fun, unconventional way to get to know each other. For one thing, you won’t be awkward about asking each other questions when you’re doing it as a game! 

Go Volunteering

Enjoying yourselves together is one thing, but bringing joy to others is quite another! However, volunteer dates are more than just a way you can make your first date more meaningful and purposeful. It’s also a way to determine whether you share the same morals and values. What’s more, you can learn other things about your date as you observe them interacting with volunteers or with people outside of their usual circle. 

Take a Photography Walking Tour 

Walking around the city with your date is a cheap but enjoyable way to spend time and get to know each other. Make this more memorable by taking photos as you go along. Not only will you have souvenirs, but you’ll also get to see how you view the world through your photos. 

It’s a Date!

Fun, unique, and affordable, these are just some of the great first-date ideas you can try out. You’ll learn more about your date this way than by just going to the movies or trying to get a conversation going over coffee. 

A Consumer Society Results in Relationship Consumerism A Consumer Society Results in Relationship Consumerism

A Consumer Society Results in Relationship Consumerism

consumer society

Most understand what we mean when we say consumer society. We see it every day. It’s the society that sees the buying of goods and services as the most important social and economic activity. But relationship consumerism? What is that you might ask?

“A social order that encourages the continuous acquisition of new partners in ever-increasing amounts.” The Stoicess

Our insatiable taste of obtaining happiness through purchasing more goods has had a spillover effect into our most cherished relationships. How commercials impact our minds to upgrade to newer or different inanimate items – our cars, our homes, even products for our looks — trains our minds in an undesirable manner. The reason? Our minds cannot differentiate between inanimate items and the relationships we once cherished. 

So, Relationship Consumerism becomes anchored in our minds. We begin evaluating our current partner against other potential partners and decide updating to another is the only path to true happiness.  

And it’s not only our partners. The negative impact of Relationship Consumerism even has a spillover effect in our jobs. Where it used to be that managers promoted employees from within the ranks, we now select external hires because we see the flaws of our current staff, and our happiness can only be achieved (in our minds) with that mysterious someone yet to be hired.

We are at a point in our relationships where trust is challenged. We update accordingly among friends if the more popular person allows us into their social group. Ties established since childhood are thrown out immediately without forethought. For the family? The very foundation of the family – our marriages – is being shaken as never before.

For me, I see these temptations and recast my mind to focus on what is important. I do this by training daily with My People – writing down the things I can live without through a daily exercise I call “The Socrates’ Challenge.” Some may consider it a child’s game. However, its simplicity has had a powerful effect on my life and the lives of My People.

You see, the Socrates’ Challenge is a simple daily task of “mental” window shopping. It’s based on the words of Socrates, “I love to go and see all the things I am happy without”. Items are considered, but I decide I will not purchase them because I realize they are unnecessary for my happiness. And I share my decision with My People in our daily public forum. Other members do the same.

So, training daily by focusing on inanimate objects that I can live without to achieve happiness, in turn, trains my mind to find satisfaction with my current relationships

Don’t believe me? Think a moment about “wax on, wax off” from the movie the Karate Kid®. Daniel learned defensive karate blocks through the very mundane chore of waxing cars. 

Relationship Consumerism does exist. We can strengthen our relationships as a byproduct of doing a simple task that appears completely unrelated. It’s just how God built our minds. So, join me in our daily exercise, the Socrates’ Challenge. 

Now using My S-T-O-I-C STORYTELLING method:

(S) I’m interested in my partner’s friend; how should I handle it? 

(T) “Many live as enemies of the cross of Christ. Their destiny is destruction, their god is their stomach…. Their mind is set on earthly things.” Apostle Paul

“I love to go and see all the things I am happy without.” Socrates

(O) I will retrain my mind using the Socrates’ Challenge.

(I) I realized I let consumerism spill over into my relationships, and I need to re-anchor my mind correctly.

(C) I now guard my mind, my heart, against Relationship Consumerism. 
The Stoicess’ Secret? What the brain learns, it will use in turn to seek happiness.