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Reawakening a Relationship with a Past Toxic, but Fun Friend Reawakening a Relationship with a Past Toxic, but Fun Friend

Reawakening a Relationship with a Past Toxic, but Fun Friend

Reawakening a Relationship with a Past Toxic, but Fun Friend.

You’re at the top of your game. Job’s good. Money in the bank. The horizon looks bright. Everything’s under control in your life. So, what’s the problem? You’re bored! You’re looking for that fixer-upper.


You’ve thought about houses, but that’s more money and work than you’re willing to give.


When looking through your photo album and reminiscing old times, you smile when you see an old friend’s photo. Excitement takes hold of your mind. “What fun the two of you had together”, you recall. “They always made me feel alive. No one could tie us down. We were living on the edge”, you think to yourself. “Maybe it’s time I reach out to them – rekindle our relationship and let the good times begin!”


However, from training with the Stoicess, you know how to reel your mind back in when it goes off on some tangent. And when facing such moments of exhilaration, you let the entire scenario play out in your mind. You think about what it will be like when the two of you first meet again and how the relationship will unfold.


As the progression occurs, your mind remembers what you faced before – those events that caused you to run away from the relationship as quickly as you could. For you realize the attraction was that neither of you were ready to commit, and that meant committing to each other as well.


You remember riding together to events but you being left to find your own way home. Another was being placed into situations you were told the two of you were doing together, but you were left with the duties to fulfill on your own while your friend was nowhere to be found. What was funny to them was traumatizing to you.


Thus, the relationship that started with excitement took its toll. A nightmare ensued, instead of a dream come true. The final breakup was lengthy, bitter, and exhausting. It would have been easier to sell a fixer-upper house for a loss and walk away, than deal with the daily drama of that breakup.


So, after playing the scenario in your mind, you shake your head, say “No thank you” and close the photo album with a smile, knowing your little escapade into fantasy land was more than enough to return you to reality. Such drama—the “drams” as they’re called—are not for you.


Now using My S-T-O-I-C Storytelling Meditation method:


(S) Should I reach out to a past friend that I still think about who was somewhat toxic but fun?
(T) “Enjoy present pleasures in such a way as not to injure future ones.” Seneca
“Like a city whose walls are broken through is a person who lacks self-control.” Book of Proverbs
(O) I decided not to reconnect.
(I) I realized there was a reason I disconnected in the first place and know it was the best decision.
(C) The character trait I improved is maintaining self-control when excitement enters my thoughts.


The Stoicess’ Secret:


To reexperience the past, a nightmare may ensue instead of a dream come true.

5 Proven Benefits of Christian Meditation Online 5 Proven Benefits of Christian Meditation Online

5 Proven Benefits of Christian Meditation Online

5 Proven Benefits of Christian Meditation Online.

Meditation is the art of calming the mind and body so that you can concentrate on yourself. This is important for achieving inner peace. As Christians, we know that stress can be very unhealthy for us. There are many people who suffer from anxiety attacks, depression, insomnia, and other health problems that are related to stress.


You should consider yourself lucky to be healthy today if you have ever experienced any form of stress, such as job stress or relationship stress, over the years. Stress can make people do irrational things and cause accidents. It can also make people lose concentration and even become aggressive. Stress affects everyone differently, but there are certain ways to reduce stress levels.


Meditation is one avenue to reduce stress levels. If you are really interested in learning how to meditate, there are plenty of options available to you.


A popular avenue is online meditation. Online meditation allows you to meditate any time you want. You can watch Christian meditation videos online via YouTube, or listen to CDs and podcasts. You can subscribe to Christian meditation online courses or join a Christian meditation website like


Know that you can get started right away. You can use free meditation apps on your smartphone, tablet, or desktop computer. You can access audio files to meditate on from these devices. You can also download the apps. Some services are free, while others are paid subscription services. The options are limitless. You can get a good quantity of meditation practices through these various websites. In addition, you can use most of these services anytime and anywhere.


There are a lot of options out there as well. Many of them feature people talking about the benefits of Christian meditation. Some of these people are professional counselors who have experience teaching others how to meditate. You can learn how to do it yourself from some of these videos. If you want to find the right course for you, you should check online. You can also visit your local library and ask the staff if they have any books or DVDs that can help you learn how to meditate. In short, the possibilities are endless.


Christian meditation online has many advantages. One of these is that it can give you a lot of peace and comfort by being able to mediate privately. It is a very good way to relax. It is also a way of strengthening your spiritual side. In addition, it can help you connect with the divine and feel closer to God at any time you need His help. Some Christians think that it is only a practice that the religious should do. This is not true. Everyone who meditates has different reasons for doing it.


Christian Meditation has been used for centuries as a powerful tool for growing spiritually and deepening one’s faith. With the rise of online Christian meditation courses and resources, it’s become easier than ever to access this practice wherever you are.


In this blog, we’ll explore five ways that Christian meditation online can benefit your life.


Increased Faith And Spiritual Connection


One of the main benefits of Christian meditation online is an increased connection with and an understanding of our faith. When we take the time to slow our minds and meditate, we can gain deeper insights into spiritual matters and strengthen our connection with God. With the help of focused guidance from Christian meditation resources, you can make progress in developing a stronger relationship with your spiritual self.


People who use Christian meditation techniques are more likely to have a positive attitude about life. It’s easier to see the beauty in life when we take the time to think about our problems and learn how to improve our relationships with others through God’s help. People who meditate on God’s word have a more positive outlook on life. You’ll find it easier to erase negative thoughts from your mind. You’ll find you are more motivated to act on what you’ve learned from your session. You’ll also improve your relationships and friendships.


Christian meditation will also give you a greater purpose and direction in your life. Focusing on your faith in God will make you more confident and optimistic. Your spirituality will improve, and you’ll gain a deeper appreciation for your beliefs and trust in God. By practicing Christian meditation, you can focus on your beliefs and gain insight into the principles that guide your life. You can look at your spiritual principles and see how they apply to real-life situations.


For example, many people use meditation to help them to be more patient with those they love. You can also focus on finding ways to be kinder to yourself and others, as Christian meditation helps you to put aside negative thoughts.


Improved Mental Clarity And Focus


When you take the time to meditate on Christian principles, you can experience improved mental clarity and focus. During meditation, our busy minds are able to rest and relax, enabling us to think more clearly about our situations and make better decisions. Your thoughts can focus on a single subject without interruption. This can help you to solve a pressing issue you are facing in your life. Additionally, focusing on Biblical stories can bring new insights into our own life struggles and provide a greater understanding of how we can handle specific issues.


By spending time thinking about God’s Word, you can bring new thoughts and insights into your own life and help you to make better decisions. Your Bible meditation helps you to grow spiritually as well. Each time you meditate, you learn something new from God’s Word and how He has helped you to overcome another precarious trial in your life.


Many people who practice Christian meditation say that they feel like they have a new lease on life. They seem to be more focused on life’s bigger picture. They become more patient and tolerant. They realize that everything happens for a reason, and they no longer worry about problems that seem to have no solution. They have greater faith and trust in God’s plan for their lives. Some people even feel that they are more spiritually-minded. This means that they can see God’s hand in everything that happens around them. They are able to see and acknowledge His plan, instead of focusing on their own problems and concerns.


Meditation has been practiced for centuries and is the perfect form of relaxation and spiritual contemplation. It has been known to reduce stress, improve mood, and increase feelings of wellbeing. Meditation can be done while sitting, lying down, standing, walking, or even while doing a sport. There are many different forms of meditation, but the most popular include chanting, visualization, and praying.


Visualization involves imagining yourself in different situations. Chanting is the process of repeating a sound, word, or phrase over and over again. This may be a simple chant, such as “Jesus is my Lord.” It may be a more complex chant, such as a Christian prayer. Praying is one of the most effective forms of meditation.


Elevated Emotions And Well-being


Christian meditation online has the power to boost positive emotions and well-being. This can be attributed to the calming atmosphere that it offers, along with improved mood and an increased sense of spiritual connection. By opening up yourself spiritually, you may find that it’s easier to handle difficult experiences, as well as enjoy greater strength in times of joy and peace. As a result, it becomes easier to keep your heart open to positivity and focus on a much healthier life balance.


A Christian meditation session can make you feel more positive than ever. You will feel calmer, happier, and more relaxed. These feelings are brought about because a Christian meditation session makes you spiritually open. You will be able to understand God and His ways much better. By understanding God better, you’ll also understand yourself better.


The Bible says that you should keep your heart open to positive energy. “A joyful heart is good medicine, but a crushed spirit dries up the bones.” Proverbs 17:22.


This means that you need to think positive thoughts as much as possible. A Christian meditation session is great because it helps you to find balance and harmony within yourself. It also will help you to keep your heart open to positive thoughts and feelings.


You will find that a Christian meditation session can help you to improve your relationships as well. It can help you to get along with others. You will find that it is easier to forgive and forget bad memories. As the Lord’s prayer states, “Forgive us our trespasses as we forgive those who trespass against us.” Matthew 6:12 The verse is a reminder that we should look at the positive side of everything and not focus on the negative. From my early training, I was taught that these so-called “mean ones” may be doing me a favor by reminding me that my sinfulness of not following His commands really irritates Him.


In addition, you will also find that a Christian meditation session can help you to achieve positive results in life. A Christian meditation session can help you to create positive changes in your life.


Positive Relationships With Friends, Family, And Community Members


Christian meditation can help to improve not only your relationship with yourself, but also with those around you. When we meditate,


When we practice Christian meditation, we are able to get into a deep state of relaxation that can really help us to become more positive. We create a peaceful and loving environment that makes communication easier, as well as allowing us to connect on a much deeper level with God. This can naturally lead to increased understanding and appreciation for all our relationships – employer, family, and friends.


Through Christian meditations, we can come up with new ideas and ways to make our lives better as we deal with others. The reason is that when we practice Christian meditation, it gives us the opportunity to talk to God. We can ask God to bless us with the strength to accomplish our goals. We can also ask God to help us to cope with our problems and get along with His other children.


This is why Christian meditation is beneficial to us. It allows us to develop a closer relationship with God and respect all those in His creation. So, we gain inner strength from our meditation practice, as it allows us to be the best version of ourselves to those who are closest to us—so everyone wins!


When practicing Christian meditation, we can ask God to help us be happy and healthy, be confident, be patient, forgive others, and love others. Additionally, we can ask God to help us to accept ourselves.


As we get to know ourselves better, we can change ourselves for the better. We can look at ourselves and know that we are not perfect. But God still loves us anyway. As we learn to be more confident in ourselves, we can develop self-esteem and confidence. We can develop self-awareness. In fact, through Christian meditation, we can develop a better sense of self. In this way, we can learn to be kinder to ourselves.


A Sense Of purpose In Life And Motivation To Pursue It


Christian meditation is not just about spiritual growth, but also personal and emotional development. When we take time out to meditate on God’s word, our beliefs, and how we should be living as Christians, it can help to bring a clear purpose into our lives by reminding us of what’s important. From that point onwards, motivates us to pursue that purpose in life more actively. We may pick up hobbies and activities that allow us to grow and support our feelings of self-worth—all thanks to taking the time out for Christian meditation online!


Closing Comments


I like to meditate because it is a good way to connect to others and myself. I find that it helps me to understand myself better, especially when it comes to my dealing with others. It helps me to be more patient, more understanding, and more respectful.


I’ve learned that I must spend some time daily in Christian meditation. I get 10 minutes of meditation at least once a day on my website; while answering the daily helpline requests which are situation driven; however, as unpleasant situations hit me during the day, I have many meditation sessions with God.


My situation-driven biblical meditation sessions with God are the greatest way I’ve found to spend quality time with God and keep me even-keeled during the day. My online website also allows me to view others’ responses to the daily posted situations.  I’m very relaxed and in control of those actions that I can control while being very understanding of others.


I truly believe my meditation sessions have allowed me to develop stronger relationships with those I interact with. The reason is simple. I’m centered on the divine while helping all His children, including me!


I’m Lori Stith, The Stoicess
and I believe in YOU

Stoicess’ Poem: Being a Team Leader Stoicess’ Poem: Being a Team Leader

Stoicess’ Poem: Being a Team Leader

A team leader I thought I wanted to be,
so I accepted the post, stood tall in my shoes, as I unleashed from my soul a tremendous amount of glee.

A commander of all, it was destiny in my mind,
but needless to say, I did not know my thoughts were unaligned.

For I learned quickly, it was one of the most thankless jobs I’d been assigned,
a job with responsibility, accountability, but when considering power, the job was so misaligned.

I had no authority over those I was to lead,
the phrase “herding cats” was a better term for what I had been assigned, I must say indeed.

Because the tools to command that a manager would have at hand,
are not in store for a team leader as one would think had been planned.

So, even those with the best people skills can be brought to their knees,
when dealing with that one individual in the group who is not a team player – it will make your heart freeze.

They’ll challenge your authority as well as your ability to lead,
make statements to catch you off-guard, for it’s your “supposed” power they want you to cede.

And those actions you may take are being watched by a few,
those assigned by management to see if you can make it through.

For management has its own problems in dealing with such folk,
so they throw you in the pit to see if you can succeed or potentially become management’s scapegoat.

The tactics for fair play are no longer in the cards,
it’s time to deal with this person as they continue to throw their shards.

Your mind returns to a verse in Proverbs, “Even a fool who keeps silent is considered wise”, as you think to yourself, “Is it really that simple in how I win this prize?”

So as with a child’s tantrum, a parent will ignore,
the antics of this person, you treat them as being a bore.

You separate them from the group and let them work alone,
a type of stand-in-the-corner until they can behave has been shown.

And once their demeanor changes and subservience they now demonstrate,
you bring them back into the team so all can now coordinate.

For in the end, it is not the power over another that you seek,
it’s the ability to get the job done quickly by keeping everyone on the same wavelength, so to speak.

And as the team disembarks once the mission is complete,
you tell yourself, “Don’t be so eager to be a leader, but remain instead until management needs a Hero ….. in the backseat”.

I’m Lori Stith, The Stoicess
AND I believe in YOU


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How To Start A New Life How To Start A New Life

How To Start A New Life

How To Start A New Life.

Starting a new life can be exciting, but it’s important to know how to do it properly. From planning ahead and organizing your finances, there are a few essential things you need to consider as you transition into your fresh start.

If you’re ready to make a change and start fresh, you’ve come to the right place. In this guide, we’ll show you how to set goals, get organized, and find the focus and motivation you need to get your new life off the ground. We’ll cover the essential steps to set up the foundation for a successful transformation.


So, let’s get started!


Understand Your Starting Point


Before you jump into creating a new life, it’s important to take some time to reflect on where you are currently. What areas of your life do you feel need improvement? What positive aspects do you want to maintain or build upon? Understanding your starting point is critical for formulating an action plan and assessing the progress that you make over time.


Figure Out What You Want to Accomplish


Once you know where you currently stand, it’s time to take the reins and figure out what tangible goals or changes you want to make in order to create a new life. Research the topics, ideas, and opportunities that interest you, and take some time to decide what success and happiness look like for you.


List your essential needs along with any desired items or experiences, creating an easy-to-follow roadmap for these life changes. Do you want to move cities? Change career paths? Reduce stress or anxiety levels? Start a business? Create your own non-profit organization?


Tabulate your goals and prioritize each one based on what it is that you want to accomplish, difficulty, importance, and timeframe for completion. This exercise can help provide clarity when making decisions during the journey towards your new life.


Set Realistic Goals And Expectations


It’s important to set realistic goals and expectations when embarking on a new life, as setting lofty goals that are difficult to reach can be discouraging and lead to burnout. To make sure your expectations of yourself and your life fit with reality, take a step back and look at the things you want to accomplish in the short term and long term.


Consider how likely it is that you will reach these goals, and research resources that are available to help you get there. Also, ask for feedback from close friends or family members whom you trust to help keep your ambitions in check. Once complete, the next stage of your journey can begin!


Take Stock Of All Potential Resources You Have Available To You


As you begin this new chapter of your life, be mindful to take a look at all the resources you currently have both financially and emotionally. If you are looking for a new job or to pursue further education, research the best options for yourself – and take into account other forms of financial aid available to you, if applicable.


Additionally, consider any emotional support systems that may be helpful in guiding you through your journey and learn how to develop strategies for self-care so that you can avoid burnout.


Streamline And Organize Your Life


Life can start to feel overwhelming when it’s cluttered with unnecessary tasks and activities. Start by organizing your space – from the physical to the digital – so you can make room for what matters. This includes decluttering your home, tackling any digital hoarding, and saying no to commitments that don’t serve you.


When you have control over your environment and schedule, there’s more time and energy left for creating the life of your dreams.


Develop Small Steps To Reach Your Goals


Developing small, attainable goals to reach your larger dreams is a key part of the journey. Small steps can look like creating additional income sources or saving money in order to eventually move.


Anything that moves you one step closer is an accomplishment worthy of celebration! If a goal feels overwhelming, breaking it down into tasks that feel doable will keep you motivated and help ensure success.


Make A Budget And Strategize Finances


Before making any big life changes, it’s important to understand your financial situation and make plans for how you will manage your money. Make a budget – one that is realistic for your current circumstances – by tracking all of your expenses and income.


Once you pinpoint where exactly your money is going, create a plan to pay off debts or save up for large items along the way. Getting your finances in order ahead of time can help prevent many financial pitfalls associated with switching jobs, cities, or starting new projects.


Prepare And Plan For Your Move


Moving to a new location requires not only practical planning — such as finding the right place to live and deciding whether you will move yourself or use a professional moving company — but also financial preparation.


You should create an estimate of what it will cost to move and live in your new home, taking into account housing costs, transportation expenses, and any other necessary expenditures. Make sure that you have enough money saved up from your current job so that you can cover all of these obligations when you move.


Make The Necessary Arrangements For Relocation


Whether you’re moving to another city or country, there are a few things you can do to make sure your transition is as smooth as possible. Research the area where you’ll be living and find out what documents are needed for your new residence.


Also, look into what type of transportation options will be available so that you can get around without any issues. For example, if you’re moving to Europe, check if there are any train passes or other discounts that allow travelers to save money while still getting around easily.


Research New Career Opportunities In Advance


Securing a job can be an important part of making your new life successful, so it makes sense to research potential career opportunities before you even start the move. Figure out what kind of skills you have and areas you’re interested in working.


You can also consult with employment agencies or check out job boards online to see what positions are being offered in the area where you will be living. Networking can also be a great way to gather information about the local job market and potentially find the perfect opportunity once you arrive.


Work On Building A Support Network In The Target Area


Having a strong support network of family, friends, and professionals is key to making any move successful. Take the time to research and connect with local organizations before you go.


Participating in communities where you can meet people who have the same interests can help you find the right set of individuals to link up with while transitioning into your new life. Depending on your location, you may also be able to use online tools such as or Facebook groups to connect with like-minded people in your target area.


Give Yourself Plenty Of Time To Adjust


It’s been said that change is the only constant, but it can still be difficult to adjust to new situations. When starting a new life, give yourself plenty of time and space to adjust to your new surroundings, routines, expectations, or other changes.


It can take months or even years for some people to finally adjust – and that’s completely normal. Patience is key when getting used to a major life change; allowing yourself time is essential for creating a healthy and successful transition into anything new.


Employ Positive Reflection And Change Habits


Positive reflection is essential to establishing a life that’s tailored to you. Block out time every day to think about what brings you joy and fulfillment. Acknowledge your feelings and use them to inform decisions about the future.


To further support yourself, work on establishing positive habits that contribute to your new direction in life. These can range from getting up early to going for daily walks, reading before bedtime or beginning a faith-based practice of meditation – anything that sets the basis for long-term progress.


Leave Some Ties To Your Old Life Behind


When you are starting a new life, it can be tempting to completely detach yourself from your old home and all the connections associated with it. However, having some ties to where you used to live can make the transition smoother. Retaining friends from an online Christian website – Trusted friends who truly care about you – like those friends from Stoic Matchmaker will always be there for you.


Consider keeping in touch with those close friends and family members from your old life who provided strong support during difficult times. Staying connected with them is also a great way to stay grounded as you create your new life in a new place.


Closing Comments


If you’re ready to make a change and start fresh, the above steps will help you set up the foundation for a successful transformation. From setting new goals, gathering the necessary resources, creating an action plan, committing to tasks, and celebrating successes – you’ll be able to build a more meaningful life.


Enjoy your journey!


I’m Lori Stith, The Stoicess
and I believe in YOU

Christian Meditation for Healing In the Moment – A New Perspective Christian Meditation for Healing In the Moment – A New Perspective

Christian Meditation for Healing In the Moment – A New Perspective

Christian Meditation for Healing In the Moment – A New Perspective.

The Bible says that God created us in His image. That means that He created us with a mind like His.


You know that your thoughts affect your emotions, and your emotions affect your health. If you think negative thoughts, then you will suffer from anxiety and depression. On the other hand, if you think positive thoughts, you will have joy and happiness. It’s that simple. Christian meditation is one way to keep those positive thoughts at the forefront of your mind.


The main objective of Christian meditation is to improve your spirituality, improve your relationships, and strengthen your faith. There are different techniques used for meditation. Some people meditate just by sitting quietly. Others meditate standing. Some may use guided imagery techniques. However, Christian meditation involves meditating with the help of the Bible.


By incorporating Christian principles into your practice, you can reduce stress, deepen your faith, and improve your sleep and overall health. Christian meditation is an effective tool for achieving inner peace and well-being.


The following suggestions will help you learn how to use Christian meditation for obtaining peace of mind quickly when disturbed by an unforeseen situation.


Learn a New Perspective of Christian Meditation


Christian meditation is a form of meditation that is based on biblical principles. The purpose of Christian meditation is to gain peace and happiness within oneself through connecting to God. It helps to free the person from all distractions in the present world and helps him or her to meditate on His word. The best way to get into Christian meditation is to try it. Start out slowly and take it one day at a time. Meditating at the end of the day is a great time to practice because you can reflect on situations that occurred during the day.


However, a better approach that I’ve found is to use unpleasant situations as my driving force to search for scripture that addresses the specific obstacle I am facing to find my answer accordingly. It’s an active approach whereby I’m searching the Christian’s owner’s manual, my Bible, to find an answer to addressing a situation I am facing today. By following this approach, I am a much stronger Christian, and when Satan serves me a subsequent lookalike curveball in the future, I stay on track in serving my Lord without being derailed.


Understand Your Faith’s Relationship to Meditation


We should all try to improve our religious beliefs and practices. We should look into the Bible and learn more about it. By reading the Bible, we can learn what we should believe and what we should do.


The Bible teaches that we should take time to meditate on God’s Word. Christian meditation is a simple process. First, we should meditate on God’s Word all day long (Psalms 119:97-99). Every situation we face is an opportunity to meditate. “Keep this Book of the Law always on your lips; meditate on it day and night.” (Joshua 1:8) We should also pray during our meditation sessions for God’s insight. We should work out the kinks that a particular situation is causing us to be disturbed by using the Bible. We should think of the things we are grateful for, including God’s insight into our current problem. We should praise God for His help. When we do this, we will receive more of what we need in the future.


Realize that embracing a faith-based practice of meditation can help bring meaning and purpose to your spiritual practice. To understand how these two concepts intersect, consider the way Christian scriptures are steeped in teachings about prayer and meditation. Always include scripture as a part of your faith-based meditation journey, as this will deepen your understanding of the relationship between Christianity and meditation as you receive God’s answer to your problem.


Engage in Silent Meditation


Guided meditation is one of the most popular methods of Christian meditation. However, I prefer engaging in my own, personal variation, of silent meditation where I build on scripture passages and Biblical teachings to create a practice that’s meaningful to me.


To begin, read through a portion of scripture that either speaks to you or resonates with your current situation. Give yourself time to think about the passage and take note of any personal insight or reflections that come to mind as you ponder it in relation to your current problem. Ask God to show you what you have read and to help you understand the Bible better. Ask Him to guide you to find the answers to your issue. Ask Him to help you learn more about Him and His relationship with you as you work through this difficulty together.


Sometimes you may feel weak when you begin your sessions since being caught off guard by an unpleasant moment. Ask God to help you overcome your current weakness and give you immediate strength. From there, you can move into prayer, where you focus on quieting your mind and thanking God for being there for you and giving you an answer.


Create Godly Intention in Your Meditation Practice


In Christian meditation, there is great emphasis on connecting to a presence greater than ourselves – our God! As you enter into your practice, it can be helpful to set an intention—a Bible passage that deeply connects you to God’s peace and protection. When I cannot think of a passage when caught off guard, I recite the “Lord’s Prayer.” This simple act helps create a pious atmosphere for me adventuring inward, while also strengthening the alignment of my spirit with the Lord’s divine mercy as He forgives me as I am now forgiving another for upsetting me.


To create a feeling of piety and to create a feeling of the Lord’s presence within you during your meditations, you should first set an intention. An intention is a feeling or thought that connects you with the Lord. To do this, think about something that gives you a feeling of faith. For the example in my paragraph above, it is forgiveness. I reframe my mind by telling myself that another has not harmed me because I am only harmed if I decide harm has occurred. And if I slip a little and believe I was harmed, I continue to recite the “Lord’s Prayer” knowing that as I forgive another, Jesus will forgive me and stand up for me on the day of judgment. When you set an intention (such as forgiveness), you are saying that you trust the Lord to care for you.


Incorporate Mindfulness into Christian Meditation for Healing and Well-being


Mindfulness is an integral part of Christian meditation. Mindfulness is the practice of intentionally choosing to stay present in the moment and to live in the present moment. By doing this, you can avoid getting carried away by negative thoughts, feelings, and behaviors.


We can’t control the past, but we can change how we envision the present. If we don’t learn to focus on what we can change in our life, what is currently disturbing us, we will never be happy.


As soon as you become aware of a problematic situation, you must stop and take time to meditate, even for a few moments. You may have a bad dream at night. If so, meditate and ask for God’s help so you can return to sleep instead of staying awake the rest of the night. Remember that you cannot control your dreams or events that you face during the day, but you can choose how to respond to them.


Christian meditation allows you to focus on the positive aspects of your life, instead of being derailed by negative thoughts. Christian meditation will prevent bad feelings from controlling you and affecting your decisions. Christian meditation will allow you to control your emotions, and by controlling your emotions, you will be more effective in handling your daily activities.


To reiterate, like with bad dreams, we don’t have control over everything that happens to us, but we can control how we respond to our circumstances.


Closing Comments


While focusing on faith, scripture readings, prayer, and integrating Christian meditation into our days, the practice of being present and aware in each moment – mindfulness – connects you to the inner calm that exists within you while being connected to God for help.


And by using difficult daily (if not hourly) situations to bring you closer to our Lord, it becomes easier for you to be both attentive and receptive to God’s Words, guidance, and mercy while remaining in control of your present environment.


I’m Lori Stith, The Stoicess
and I believe in YOU

Whether to Accept a Job Offer Away From Family Whether to Accept a Job Offer Away From Family

Whether to Accept a Job Offer Away From Family

Whether to Accept a Job Offer Away From Family.

It’s your dream. It’s the talent God blessed you with. It’s your calling in life.
However, where you are now is not going to get you from the “here” to the “there”. Why? Location, location, location.


The training you need to grow your talent is not offered where you are now.
The contacts needed for your success are not among your current friends.
However, the relationships with your family, your friends, and your partner are at stake.


So how do you make the decision to leave the family nest?


For you, your greatest calling required a choice – to stay or leave the nest.
The distance you needed to travel was not far, but the circle of contacts needed was quite different. The thought of moving your life, your mind, in a different direction from your safety net was scary. And considering the obligations to your family was no easy task.


But the calling was strong. The journey of life awaited you. And as the business adage goes, ‘It’s all about location, location, location.”


From training with the Stoicess, you know that whether your decision is to move hundreds or miles away or attend the local community college to hone your precious skill, you will become a different person mentally.


Your mind will change based on knowledge gained from the literature and those you are now associating with. You will begin seeing what you didn’t see before.  You will understand things that were previously a mystery.


So, as you grow your mind, you know you will find that for those back at the nest, either supporters or opposers, they will be. But it’s Your Journey, Your Success, Your Calling. “And most importantly”, as you think to yourself, “It’s My Choice!”


Now using My S-T-O-I-C Storytelling Meditation method:


(S) I received a job offer away from my family, what should I do?
(T) “Do what you will. Even if you tear yourself apart, most people will continue to do the same things.”  Marcus Aurelius
“Be strong and courageous. Do not be terrified; do not be discouraged for the Lord your God will be with you wherever you go.” Book of Joshua
(O) I decided to move forward with fulfilling my dream.
(I) I realized it was my calling and no matter where I go, the Lord will be my strength.
(C) The character trait I improved was believing in me.

The Stoicess’ Secret:


To be the best, the journey begins when your mind leaves the nest.

5 Powerful Christian Guided Meditations For Clarity and Faith 5 Powerful Christian Guided Meditations For Clarity and Faith

5 Powerful Christian Guided Meditations For Clarity and Faith

5 Powerful Christian Guided Meditations For Clarity and Faith.

Don’t know where to start with your Christian faith practice? Immerse in this curated list of five guided meditations that will help you tap into your spiritual power to promote clarity and faith.


Invite Stillness and Connect to the Divine with Simplicity


Start your guided meditation journey with this exercise designed to help you bring stillness and clarity into your relationship with the Divine. As you begin, learn to quiet your mind and relax your body. Slowly inhale and exhale, allowing yourself to remain still and observe any changing thoughts or feelings that arise.


Get rid of any negative thoughts. Gradually invite a sense of simplicity, transcending from all distractions and focusing solely on the present moment. Full awareness will allow you to gain a deeper connection with God, as well as recognizing that He is always present with you.


When you are meditating, continue to improve your concentration on God’s word as you address a situation that you have confronted and seek an answer. Find a passage that you feel is relevant to your situation and read it slowly and methodically. Continue your connection with God until you find an answer that makes you feel better.


It may not be the best answer, but it’s an excellent start for another meditation session later if the answer did not achieve exactly what you were looking for. Remember that the process is to connect to God and His Word to lead you to a position of comfort in dealing with difficult situations.


Make Room for Joyful Clarity and Presence


Utilize Christian meditation to make room for joy and clarity within your relationship with the Divine. As spiritual energy is held in each breath, be conscious of the quality of your inner thoughts and feelings.


While being present to shifting sensations and emotions in this moment, allow yourself to direct your thoughts away from preoccupation or agitation; instead radiating kindness, compassion and peace as you connect with God’s presence while reviewing the situation you want to address. Invite a sense of joyful clarity into your experience – one that is grounded but also uplifted by the Holy Spirit – and allow His love to pervade your entire being.


Remain calm and relaxed while you intertwine God’s word with your situation for which you seek an answer. Think about what you want to accomplish and meditate for as long as you need to find your answer. And as you reach your answer regarding the situation, be joyful and give praise to God for helping you to find a way to overcome your anxiety with what you may again face in the future. Know that you are now better prepared if a similar situation were to reappear.


Utilize Soul-Focused Prayer to Surrender Worry and Fear


Have faith in God’s healing energy as you close your eyes and enter into a deep space of love. As you breathe through your worries and fears, feel safe as God responds to you with His compassion.


Accept the invitation to release emotional turmoil with each exhalation, feeling the burden soften within your body. Reconnecting with God is like taking a sip of cool water on a hot day; imbibe the holy insight that brings reprieve from internal distress and, in turn, will allow those pure emotions of peace to arise in their absence.


Pray heartily for His help as you meditate. Think of the reasons you should feel happy for having to address the prior difficult situation. For one, you now know you are stronger if a rematch with that situation were to occur.


You may think that your current problem will never change and there is no way out. However, there are always things that we can do to change the balance of a situation.


Focus on God’s instruction in the Bible to give you clarity over what you can control and how to implement a successful peace for you. Add prayer to your session to thank God for helping you.


Keep in mind that we  need to talk to God whenever we are in trouble or in pain. By doing that, God will listen to our prayers and heal us. Note that I said “heal us”. The situation may not be changed. The culprit may not receive their due punishment from our point of view.


However, God “heals us”. He will show us the right path to follow to find our inner peace. He will lead us to the right people to help. So, never fear what might happen to you. God will never let anything tremendous bad happen to us as long as we stay connected with Him. Biblical mediation is a pathway for that wonderful connection.


Softly Tap into the Power of Devotion and Surrender


Set aside this time as an offering to connect deeply with your faith as you transition into a place of divine meditation. Feel the tenderness of devotion gracefully entwining around you; understand the power that awaits in quiet surrender to the source of all existence.


Allow yourself to release any notion of control and bask in the awareness that God’s wisdom is infinitely greater than your own. Let go and allow God’s brilliance to flood through your being, recognizing His gentle kindness and abundant nourishment as a cozy blanket for your soul.


By spending more time praying, meditating and reading the Bible, you will find out that you have more energy and can accomplish more things in life. It’s so important to meditate daily to have God with you constantly.


It’s a good idea to meditate and pray when you are tired and you don’t feel like doing anything else. You should pray when you are stressed out as well. Prayer gives you strength and helps you to cope with stress. Spending time praying and meditating can be very helpful to you.


Remember, when you have daily problems, turn to God and ask Him to help you. You shouldn’t be afraid to ask God for help. God knows what you need and He wants to help you. He loves you and will do anything to help you control your mind. You’ll be surprised at what He will do for you by strengthening your mind.


Ground Yourself to Find Inner Peace and Trust in God’s Will


An important part of meditating with faith is to ground yourself so you can find inner peace. Begin your grounding ritual by inhaling deeply and imagining the presence of God’s all-pervasive love as it nurtures your spirit from deep within.


Whether your standing behind the counter at your job, sitting at the desk, or run to the restroom for a quick break, begin by exhaling and imagine releasing any sense of worry or doubt that weighs upon your spirit. Yes, you can meditate with your eyes open, for it’s your mind that is connecting with Him.


Take slow, deep breaths in and out. Each time you breathe in, imagine that you are drawing in the soothing energy of God’s universe. Breathe out to release any stress and anxiety. In this way, you can begin to calm your mind and connect with the energy God is supplying.


Continue breathing slowly to feel the reassuring energy of God’s embrace as your worries slowly dissipate with every breath until inner serenity takes over. With each inhalation and exhalation, trust in God’s will to envelop you and find that inner peace, as you become aware of His presence to assist you.


Closing Comments


With Christian meditation, we are showing our faith in Him as He is our creator. We should pray to Him. We should tell Him all of our problems. We should trust Him and believe that He will take care of us. We should be thankful for all of the things that He has given us.


And even if your meditation session occurs with your eyes open while on duty at the job, you can still pray and read from your mind a memorized scripture as you seek God’s help to get you through that difficult moment.


For me, when under the gun and I literally don’t have time to think, I do keep one verse constantly on my “mental” tongue — “I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me”.


I’m Lori Stith, The Stoicess
and I believe in YOU

The Stoicess’ Poem: Giving Up Confidential Information The Stoicess’ Poem: Giving Up Confidential Information

The Stoicess’ Poem: Giving Up Confidential Information

The Stoicess’ Poem: Giving Up Confidential Information

They say we are best friends, but I’m not sure,
for when I look into their heart, it doesn’t seem so pure.

They share with me their thoughts that they say are so personal,
and then demand I share information I gained from another that is very interpersonal.

Just the other day, they were applying for a job,
said I knew information gained from another with whom I hobnob.

The information would give them a leg up in applying for their would-be position,
and having this confidential information would help them fulfill their mission.

I felt torn as to whether to give the information,
knowing my relationship with the other, as well as the requestor’s reputation.

I thought to myself, “What if they blab to the world what I shared?”
the shame, the humiliation, the embarrassment I’d cause, once this private information became aired.

As I stood in thought, mulling over these different feelings,
the friend began hammering me, pressuring me on our current dealings.

They again remind me, “we are best friends,” in a scolding tone,
waiting impatiently for a response as the current situation became full-blown.

Their change in demeanor helped bring me to reality,
this friendship is not equal – I’m viewed as their devotee.

The words of Proverbs, my mind immediately discovered,
“he who is trustworthy in spirit keeps a thing covered”.

The thought of a Trusted Friend then came to mind,
One who looks out for your best interest, not theirs – such a person is so difficult to find.

For a Trusted Friend would never put me on point,
to gain an advantage to hurt me or another simply to gain their endpoint.

A Trusted Friend would think of me first,
and quell the desire for which this person now thirsts.

I now see that a Trusted Friend is a one-way street,
it’s how I view them and not how they view me.
I see them as my sanctuary – as someone who’s my closest helpmeet.

So, to this current friend, I may be their Trusted Friend,
but in my book, their designation as a Trusted Friend, I will not lend.

For I will hold them as an Acquaintance in my mind,
using a different classification of terms that are much better aligned.

Friends are now Acquaintances, and Trusted Friends created from being time-tested,
the few, the best, those in whom my confidences will only be placed so that my mind will always remain rested.

And since this friend, relegated to a mere acquaintance, I am now ready to respond,
I tell them I feel uncomfortable sharing, for I will not taint my other friend’s bond.

I’m Lori Stith, The Stoicess
AND I believe in YOU


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Exploring Christian Meditation and the Bigger Picture of Faith Exploring Christian Meditation and the Bigger Picture of Faith

Exploring Christian Meditation and the Bigger Picture of Faith

Exploring Christian Meditation and the Bigger Picture of Faith.

Through Christian meditation, you can use prayer and scripture reading to connect more deeply with your inner self. This will help to develop a deeper understanding of God’s plan for you and provide insight.


As the calmness of meditation takes over, you’ll be able to reflect on your life and how many of your decisions have been guided by faith. By connecting with yourself physically, mentally, and spiritually, Christian meditation can help to guide you towards contentment.


Meditation is very helpful to a person’s life. It can help people to understand themselves better and become more focused. It will also help them to deal with stress, anxiety, depression, and many other problems.


There are many ways to meditate. One way is to lie down comfortably and close your eyes. You will see a blank space in front of you. You should then try to imagine the most positive experience in your life. This will help you to focus on the positive. After a while, you should think about what you have been doing wrong and what you have done right. You should also think about what you want to change. These thoughts should be directed towards yourself. You should try to avoid thinking about negative situations.


You may also need to think about your problems in detail. Try to be as real as possible. You can think about yourself or you can think about someone else. You can use your imagination to visualize what you would like to have happen. You should then ask yourself whether you want to create the situation in your life or if you are going to accept the reality of what is happening.


You should be sure to answer that question honestly. You should not pretend that everything is fine and that nothing bad is happening. It will be easy for you to feel sad if you have not taken care of your problems.


Improve Your Mental, Physical and Spiritual Wellbeing with Regular Practice


Physically, Christian meditation can help improve the body’s ability to relax and reduce stress. Beneficial breathing techniques learned can be used every day and anytime you’re feeling overwhelmed or anxious.


To add to that, your mental endurance can increase as your brain is allowed moments of peace without worrying about deadlines or responsibilities. Spiritually, it allows for deeper introspection about faith and how it is powering your life every single day.


By letting go of all worries, you can communicate more deeply with God. Regular practice of Christian meditation will bring deep inner peace along with many other physical and spiritual benefits.


Meditation is a technique that helps us to relax. In a positive sense, it can give us a sense of calmness. The mind can concentrate on a particular subject or thought. It can be anything. It could be a religious idea, an idea about something that happened in your life, or an idea about how to do something.


There are two types of meditation: concentration and transcendent. Transcendental meditation is the type that most people know. It is a meditation that allows the mind to transcend from the physical world to a higher level. In the course of doing that, you experience a deep relaxation.


Concentration meditation is similar to transcendental meditation except that it is done only with the mind. The difference between them is that transcendental meditation requires a period of time while concentration meditation does not. In fact, it is possible to do concentration meditation right away. If you are interested in doing this type of meditation, you must follow the instructions exactly. If you don’t, you may end up losing yourself in the process.


You should meditate for about 30 minutes each day. The more you meditate, the better you will be able to concentrate. When you have finished your meditation, you will feel refreshed and relaxed.


Find Stillness in Reciting Psalms or Scriptural Passages


As Christians, we can turn to scripture or psalms when we are feeling overwhelmed. By reciting passages of the Bible, we can find stillness and peace in God’s word as our Meditation practice continues. Consider reading and reflecting on a passage that speaks to you or brings you joy. Then, repeat it multiple times until whatever worries or distractions slip away. This is an easy way to become more comfortable with Christian meditation and is an effective way for beginners to get started.


Many people like to meditate on the Bible. By doing this, you can calm yourself and find peace. You can choose a specific book of the Bible or use the entire Bible as your meditation text. When you do, you should choose a passage that speaks to you. You can recite this passage over and over until you feel calm. The main idea behind this is that you should try to get to know the Lord more deeply by reading and thinking about His words. This will help you to understand His teachings better.


You can find many Bible verses that speak to you. You should choose one that resonates with you. It doesn’t matter which version of the Bible you use. Just make sure that the translation you read is clear and understandable. Once you’ve chosen the right passage, you should read it several times. After that, you should close your eyes and focus on the words.


You should pay close attention to the words in the passage. This is a good way to meditate. When you do this, you are meditating on a verse that you have chosen. If you do this, you can feel a sense of calmness. This feeling will help you to relax and clear your mind. When you finish reading, you should take time to reflect on what you have just read. You may want to write down your thoughts.


Reduce Stress and Anxiety By Communing With God Through Christian Meditation


Christian meditation is a powerful tool for relaxation and self-reflection. Worldly stress and anxiety can be alleviated when we turn to scripture, prayer, or positive affirmations as our source of comfort. In the Book of Psalms alone, we find countless verses that can bring us back to the present moment.


As we meditate on these passages and pray with intention, godly peace replaces any turmoil within. With regular practice, Christian meditation can become an irreplaceable part of your faith journey.


Meditation is a practice in which you focus on one thing for a period of time. You can meditate on anything that you like. It is usually done while sitting quietly. This is a very effective form of relaxation.


People often use meditation to calm themselves down. For example, if you have been upset about something, you can take a few minutes to just think about nothing. This can help you to relax and regain your calm. Christian meditation is similar to meditation, except that you can use religious scriptures to relax and gain spiritual strength.


Closing Comments


You can use scripture to get out of your problems and think about them less. Using scripture to relieve your tension is called Christian meditation. This can help you to think about your problems differently. Christian meditation is not always easy, but it is helpful. You should try to find a verse that will calm you down. Asking our Lord for His help is always the right answer.


I’m Lori Stith, The Stoicess
and I believe in YOU

The Stoicess’ Poem: Meditation on Relationship Nitpicking The Stoicess’ Poem: Meditation on Relationship Nitpicking

The Stoicess’ Poem: Meditation on Relationship Nitpicking

Meditation on Relationship Nitpicking

Nitpicking, oh nitpicking, why does it be,
Nitpicking, oh nitpicking, it’s always on me.


It’s the silly things you pick on me for,
a missed comma, misspelled word, an additional space – who hasn’t made such overlooks before!


My competence, my on-time work are never on your radar,
Instead, it’s the little overlook objects that you stab at me for.


You begin with your niceties – all smiles and grins,
Then like a snake hidden in the grass, you strike me in the shins.


Those little things that can be corrected so quickly,
are monstrous in your eyes, causing your demeanor to turn prickly.


Your road to greatness is adorned with preciseness,
Knowing exactly every step so that it can be iterated with such conciseness.


And thinking outside the box is the death knell of a company,
Keeping a cleared desk, a sharp dresser, a meticulous faultfinder – those are the ones you must accompany.


My world is at an end, you say with such harshness,
the problem I’m told is my lack of sharpness.


Getting the little things wrong I must improve on,
for if I cannot catch the simple, my time with this company will soon be forgone.


As the pounding continues, there are answers you demand,
“How could you do this?” you say so sternly, as you make your stand.


I sometimes wonder while listening to you intently,
if I’ve stepped into an alter world like Alice in Wonderland, incidentally.


What first seems so surreal, so unimaginable it may seem,
becomes reality very quickly when your tone turns into a scream.


Such a harsh punishment for a small infraction comes to mind,
should I apologize profusely and promise to do better as I return to the grind?


I then proceeded to meditate on God’s Word,
saw Apostle Paul’s thoughts on how to treat the absurd.


He said we should always view others differently from ourselves,
honoring them before us, even if we work as their elves.


However, if with another one does not fit,
note that Apostle Paul departed from those he was a misfit.


So, then I realized, it is Alice’s world I’ve entered,
For when there’s nothing left to critique me on, nitpicking is the game played by one who’s self-centered.


And here’s the game’s rule in case you’ve forgotten,
“Sticks and stones may break my bones, but words”….
Well, you know, their words are always quite rotten.


I now take such moments as being well-timed,
that the stairs to greatness in the other’s eyes I have climbed.


Their prize I have achieved as I dust off my resume,
move forward to my next endeavor from their created archway.


Nitpicking, oh nitpicking, oh how you’ve touched me,
Thank you so much for opening my eyes to clearly see thee.