Placed in the Friend Zone: Stoicess’ Secret

July 3, 2024

Placed in the Friend Zone: Stoicess’ Secret.

You were the perfect couple according to all your friends when they witnessed your wedding. But that was ten years ago. Since then, you’ve moved away from your hometown and friends. A few years ago, you finally made it to the upper class. You’re living in the land of the Richie Rich and things couldn’t be better. That is, until your partner told you they want a divorce. But their request was a little different. Instead of wanting the “will never see each other again” approach, your partner wants to place you in the “friend zone” so that the both of you can hang out as best friends. Your mind is swirling trying to figure out what is going on here.

From training with the Stoicess, you know there are a few underlying reasons that are likely in play at this point in your relationship. A common reason for this fallout is a fear of missing out. In today’s society, there is a prevailing belief that there is always something better out there. Your partner may believe that by continuing to commit to you, they are closing themselves off to other potential opportunities or experiences. This belief can lead them to want to keep you in the friend zone as their safety net, while they continue to explore other options.

Another reason is that your partner has developed different values or goals from you. Values and goals shape who we are as individuals and influence the choices we make in life. When your partner develops fundamentally different values or goals, it can create tension and hinder the growth of the relationship. For example, if you continue to value stability and long-term commitment while your partner now prioritizes freedom and adventure, it can create a disconnect that leads to your placement in the friend zone.

In the end, you realize it’s time to have a tough conversation with your partner and address the incompatibilities in your relationship. A relationship must fulfill the needs and desires of both individuals. One partner – you in this case – will not tolerate waiting on your partner as a backup – their safety net – while they play the field to find someone better. Thus, if it becomes clear that the current differences cannot be reconciled, you know it’s time to move on and break off all ties in this relationship.

Now using My S-T-O-I-C STORYTELLING method:

(S) My partner and I are divorcing but are still hanging out together; is this normal?
(T) “To procure friendship only for better and not for worse is to rob it of all its dignity.” Seneca
“A man of many companions may come to ruin, but there is a friend who sticks closer than a brother.” Book of Proverbs
(O) The relationship changed over time.
(I) I realized we no longer have a true friendship but one of convenience.
(C) The character trait I improved was accepting that the relationship has changed and it would be best for me to move on.

Thank you for sharing your mind with me.

For your continued Success,

Hear MY Secret:

When your partner only wants you as a safety net, it’s time to move on and not be their pet. 

Now RELAX ……CONTROL YOUR MIND….

and ‘Be as you wish to seem’ …..

EMPOWERED!

Remember: It’s the Situation Keeping My Connection with HIM.

I’m Lori Stith, The Stoicess
and I believe in You