Coworker Making You Look Bad

June 28, 2023

Coworker Making You Look Bad.

They’re talking about you again.
It’s that coworker trying to undermine you.

Their chatter used to be behind your back, but it’s becoming bolder …..almost as if they’re standing in front of your face.

You’re hurt, confused, and angry. You need to do something before your reputation is completely destroyed with your team and the boss.

Is it time for an all-out public war or do you take them outside behind the dumpster for a licking?

For you, you pay attention to what is being said about you when others don’t think you are listening. As you remain silent, you enter the mind of the coworker chatting your faults to determine what is bothering them. Although you may find it’s a specific event that occurred, the real concern is their perception of you

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You see, in the coworker’s mind, you are a strength, a powerhouse, a strongman.
And they can’t stand it.

So if they can’t beat you honestly, they turn to “trash talk”—that game a Weakling plays in order to mess with the mind of the powerhouse. The goal of the game is to overwhelm your  mind with bitterness, hatred — along with undermining your confidence.

You become a servant to the Weakling by having to defend your reputation to others.

And it’s a game you refuse to play because if they disturb your mind, they own your time—that most precious gift God gave you to do HIS work.

So what the coworker and others think of you is merely water off the duck’s back.
For you are that powerhouse and they are the weakling, and you and they BOTH know it.

“Teflon coating you are” when it comes to their insults because in truth, we are all mere grains of sand on the seashore of life.

You’ve developed your grain – through Wisdom – which has become larger than theirs – and can withstand the tides.

Before long, the ocean will be taking them away and you will remain.

Now using My S-T-O-I-C Storytelling Meditation method:

(S) A co-worker is trying to make me look bad, what should I do?
(T) “Acquire the habit of attending carefully to what is being said by another, and of entering, so far as possible, into the mind of the speaker.” Marcus Aurelius
“The beginning of wisdom is this: Get wisdom.
Though it cost all you have, get understanding.” Book of Proverbs
(O) I ignored their attempts to get my attention.
(I) I realized if I allowed them to disturb my mind, I will be a servant to them.
(C) The character trait I improved was continuing my effort to gain wisdom and understanding.

The Stoicess’ Secret:

If they disturb your mind, they own your Time

I’m Lori Stith, The Stoicess
Your Christian Life Coach
AND I believe in YOU!

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