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4 Questions to Ask Before Dating Someone with Kids

4 Questions to Ask Before Dating Someone with Kids

November 9, 2022

4 Questions to Ask Before Dating Someone with Kids

 

Kids can be a lot of fun, even if you’re not completely a kid person. However, if you’re thinking about dating someone who has kids, there are plenty of things to consider beforehand. Take these 5 questions to heart and have a healthy conversation before getting too involved. 

 

How Often Will You See Them?

 

Dating someone with kids can be hard and your time with your new steady will be shared with their children. While you’ll want to give them the time they need to be with their parent, it shouldn’t mean that you only see your significant other when it happens to work out. If things go well, you’ll be around all the time just like their kids and that means you’ll want to get everyone accustomed to you being in the picture. However, you should have a conversation with your partner about how much time you’ll be seeing each other so that you’re both on the same page. 

 

Are You Okay with Being Spontaneous?

Life with kids means that you’ll be running around a good portion of the time for different venues, whether outings with their friends, sports games, and more. Having a good amount of patience and being flexible will help you get in their good graces. 

 

Are the Parents On Good Terms Now?

If the previous marriage ended with bitterness, resentment, and anger then you’re stepping into a bad scenario. The other parent could try to interfere with your dating as a way to force a breakup. Think of last-minute changes for childcare, or worse, they affect how the children view you. 

 

Are You Ready for the Responsibility?

Dating someone with kids ultimately means that you’ll have a role in rearing them. What will those responsibilities look like? How can you help shape them into a fully functioning adult, much less a person of character? No doubt, this will take time and patience. If you’re up to the challenge, then it could be the beautiful beginning of a great friendship. 

 

The good news about dating someone who already has kids is that you’re not alone in any of these matters. With your significant other, you can be a part of their lives as you date. You’ll know eventually if they are the person you want to journey through life with permanently. 

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