Control your mind or others will.

Control your mind or others will.

April 18, 2022

I had become weary when performing my mission. The frustration was growing, and decided I needed a hiatus – some time to just turn off my mind from thinking about anything—what some call going rogue for a short time.

Little did I know, that turning my mind off would lead to greater frustration than I ever imagined, which included the inability to return to my mission. You see, I let my mind become unguarded. My attention was given (cheerfully I might add) to the everyday humdrums of chaos around me. I got caught up in the “he saids”, “she saids”, and lost all ability to return my attention to my mission. There were so many stumbling blocks and distractions that kept coming at me to keep me down in the crabhole. I quickly got stuck in a rut of going nowhere. 

My saving grace was that I came across these words of Epictetus on my cell phone, “You become what you give your attention to… If you yourself don’t choose what thoughts and images you expose yourself to, someone else will”.

I immediately grabbed the mental reigns and said “Woo Kemosabe” – my trusted brain that is—STOP. Refocus. Remember your mission. I then threw off the distraction from others and regained myself. I realized TIME, the most precious commodity that one has, I had freely given away.

So, for all of us, when we become weary in our mission, don’t let the mind go to numbness because others will “fill the void” and distract us.

They’ll distract us to the point of No Return – blocking our ability to return to the fulfillment of our true purpose in this life—our mission.

For me, I’ve made the promise to never let myself become so weary again. I now surround myself with people that lift me up and we share a common goal to make this a better world. And for those days I don’t want to get out of bed because I’m so tired of what life throws at me? I get up! Others depend on me as I depend on them.

So, do me a favor, keep putting that smile on your face and be the shine in someone’s life, My Life, and I promise to be the Shine in Yours.

Now using My S-T-O-I-C STORYTELLING method:

(S) I was in a rut of distractions coming from others keeping me from my mission.
(T) “You become what you give your attention to.” Epictetus
(O) Once I was able to refocus on my mission of helping others, the distractions became non-existent to me.
(I) I realized that when I wanted some time away from my mission to regroup myself, I inadvertently allowed my mind to be open to the many distractions laid upon me by others. I almost reached the point of not being able to return to my mission because I was sucked into their crabhole of mischief.
(C) I regained my self-control when realized I was losing time – that precious commodity that we all have so little of—following becoming lost in playing those mind games of others.

I am determined to never again let myself become lost “down in the crabhole”—looking up to find salvation.

The Stoicess’ Secret?
Control Your Mind or Others Will Do It For You

Remember: “It’s the Situation Keeping My Connection with Him”.

I’m Lori Stith, The Stoicess, and I believe in You!

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