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Control your mind or others will.

Control your mind or others will.

April 18, 2022

You had become weary when performing your mission. The frustration was growing, and you decided you needed a hiatus – some time to just turn off your mind from thinking about anything—what some call going rogue for a short time.

Little did you know, that turning your mind off would lead to greater frustration than you ever imagined, which included the inability to return to your mission. You see, you let your mind become unguarded. Your attention was given (cheerfully) to the everyday humdrums of chaos around you. You got caught up in the “he saids”, “she saids”, and lost all ability to return your attention to your mission. There were so many stumbling blocks and distractions that kept coming at you to keep you down in the crabhole. You quickly got stuck in a rut of going nowhere. 

Your saving grace was that you came across these words of Epictetus on your cell phone, “You become what you give your attention to… If you yourself don’t choose what thoughts and images you expose yourself to, someone else will”.

You immediately grabbed the mental reigns and said “Woo Kemosabe” – my trusted brain that is—STOP. Refocus. Remember your mission. You then threw off the distraction from others and regained yourself. You realized TIME, the most precious commodity that one has, you had freely given away.

So, you reached the realization that when you become weary in your mission, don’t let the mind go to numbness because others will “fill the void” and distract you.

They’ll distract you to the point of No Return – blocking your ability to return to the fulfillment of your true purpose in this life — your mission.

For you, you’ve made the promise to never let yourself become so weary again. You now surround yourself with people that lift you up and share a common goal to make this a better world. And for those days you don’t want to get out of bed because you’re so tired of what life throws at you? You get up! Others depend on you as you depend on them.

So, you now live by the motto to keep putting that smile on your face and be the shine in someone’s life,  and they’ll likely promise to be the Shine in Yours.

Now using My S-T-O-I-C STORYTELLING method:

(S) I was in a rut of distractions coming from others keeping me from my mission.
(T) “You become what you give your attention to.” Epictetus
“Do not be conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewal of your mind, that by testing you may discern what is the will of God, what is good and acceptable and perfect.” Apostle Paul
(O) Once I was able to refocus on my mission of helping others, the distractions became non-existent to me.
(I) I realized that when I wanted some time away from my mission to regroup myself, I inadvertently allowed my mind to be open to the many distractions laid upon me by others. I almost reached the point of not being able to return to my mission because I was sucked into their crabhole of mischief.
(C) I regained my self-control when realized I was losing time – that precious commodity that we all have so little of—following becoming lost in playing those mind games of others. I am determined to never again let myself become lost “down in the crabhole”.

The Stoicess’ Secret?
Control Your Mind or Others Will Do It For You

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