When Partner Tries To Guilt Trip You

May 3, 2023

When Partner Tries To Guilt Trip You.

There’s an old proverb that goes like this… “Sticks and stones may break my bones, but words will never hurt me.” It’s a child’s expression said in order to show that a person cannot be hurt by unpleasant things said to them. But is it true?

Ever have someone make you feel bad for not giving in to their wants? They act mad, like a spoiled child not getting their way. They call you names, say you are a meanie, and act as if they will never talk to you again.

Their words, those cold, cruel words, cut to your heart. The words burn into your mind. You feel bad because they have twisted the situation into making themselves the victim and you the perpetrator – that uncaring one.

Well…. Welcome to the “guilt trip” game.

For you, your training with the Stoicess gives you the ability to realize immediately that a child’s game is being played. The guilt trip game requires you to be manipulated, so the victim gets what they want at all costs. The game ends with the would-be victim (them) receiving their prize while blame is placed solely on you for their prior unhappiness.

So, when the game begins, you show no emotion. “Being stoic is evil” is a response you may hear. “You’re not acting like a Christian” is another phrase used. Such words are merely slander because the debate – the guilt trip game – ends quickly without your emotional response to drive the game forward.

You see, being stoic – controlling your emotion – is your best tactic. Whether in dealing with a boss, a partner, or a child, it’s YOUR “checkmate” move. For if you show emotion, your opponent will see a gateway into your mind, and it will be “game on”.

But to show no emotion “allows the fire to go out” and the game must end. Yes, slander may follow, but without your emotion, the game cannot be played.  It’s “game over”.

Now using My S-T-O-I-C Storytelling Meditation method:

(S) My partner makes me feel guilty if they don’t get what they want; what should I do?
(T) “When the debate is lost, slander becomes the tool of the loser.” Unknown Author
“For lack of wood the fire goes out, and where there is no whisperer, quarreling ceases.” Book of Proverbs
(O) I decided to not give in to the emotional abuse.
(I) I realized that even though this touches my emotions, I can’t let my emotions show.
(C) The character trait I improved is keeping a strong stance.

The Stoicess’ Secret:

Your Words and Actions may Touch My Mind, but No Emotion will make me unwind.

I’m Lori Stith, The Stoicess
Your Christian Life Coach
AND I believe in YOU!

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