Stoicess’ Poem: Codependency

August 21, 2023

Stoicess’ Poem: Codependency.

“But I can’t stand to see you fail because you have so much potential.
I’m going to be here and help you be that rising star because I’m essential.”

Sound familiar? Are these the words you share with your significant other?
Are you the giver in the relationship awaiting some miracle from him like you are his mother?

You see, the problem is that your beloved may not want to put in the work necessary to succeed,
so, in turn, he depends on you to do all the work and somehow put him into the limelight so he can exceed.

And you think you’re helping by overstepping your role of taking care of him,
but as his dependency increases on you, your dependency to see him succeed at any cost becomes total mayhem.

The relationship becomes unhealthy – ultimately failing – because you gave yourself to someone who had no desire to put in the sweat to achieve,
you let your emotions become the result of what you thought your beloved could accomplish but you were sorely deceived.

So, subsequently, you realize your beloved is not some Ken doll to dress up in your imagination to fit your groove,
you now know you cannot try to fix someone who has no desire to improve.

Instead, you offer tough love and if your help is wanted, then constructive criticism is what you give,
and when you perceive your partner is missing the mark, he must make a correction quickly in order for you to forgive.

For it’s his effort, his goal, his wings – not yours,
a supporter you shall be, but never a caregiver as he performs on his tours.

I’m Lori Stith, The Stoicess
Your Christian Life Coach
AND I believe in YOU

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