Stoicess’ Poem: Partner having feeling for their Ex

July 17, 2023

Stoicess’ Poem: Partner having feeling for their Ex

You were having a wonderful day together, your partner and you,
but as the evening came to a close, your partner hit you with something out of the blue.

Your partner had been thinking about their life prior to you,
and a feeling had overcome them – they were missing another special someone, that someone before you, that they knew.

For those words they uttered, “I’m missing those fun times with my ex”, hit your heart like no other,
they tell their story of what they’ve been missing, as you continue to listen with the temperament of one’s mother.

For most, you figure, one’s mind would go into overdrive,
they’d put up the barriers – the shields to protect themselves – as the relationship begins to nosedive.

They’d likely push their partner away, be mad, and feel their self-worth had been diminished,
since the relationship has now entered the final phase, that phase of being finished.

For that old gnawing feeling of jealousy had now crept in,
that monster they’ve been compared to, would tear their heart from within.

“Am I not good enough? What did the ex do that I’m not doing?” – such thoughts their minds would be entertaining,
but you’ve trained with the Stoicess and this day is another walk in the park for you, as you listen to your partner’s story without complaining.

You think back to the words of Marcus, words that remind you, we all have choices,
and that you each have a say in this matter as you share your voices.

Marcus suggests you both count the blessings that you actually now possess,
and think about how much you would desire the other. if they weren’t already yours, nevertheless.

So, you tell your partner that he’s not alone in having such thoughts,
you thank him for his story, for it allowed you to reminisce about your previous whatnots.

However, you then share a secret with him,
with which you suggest he think about when having such a whim.

Whenever you miss any of your exes and compare him to any of them,
you consider those words of Marcus deeply, and reach the same decision each time – that decision to stay with him.

For as the book of Isaiah tells us, we should forget the former things and not dwell on the past,
for God has created in us a new thing, one that is built to last.

So, those past memories of good times are merely thoughts that sometimes childishly entertain our minds,
but trust, acceptance, and unconditional love, we keep locked in our hearts, for these are our most cherished blessings – these are our truest “intellectual” fine arts.

I’m Lori Stith, The Stoicess
Your Christian Life Coach
AND I believe in YOU!

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