When Child’s Partner Is Abusive

April 26, 2023

When Child’s Partner Is Abusive.

“That person is just mean! How could someone treat my child like that? I think it’s time I step in. I’m going to give the so-called partner a “good talking to” the next time we meet!”

Seeing your child being emotionally abused by another is very disheartening. You’ve always protected them, they are your child, and you don’t want any harm done to them. It’s easy to focus solely on the bad partner and what your action will be to handle them directly.

However, the reality is that intervening to handle the partner is not a good idea. Numerous bad outcomes may result including the possibly of losing your relationship with your child.

For you, you realize your child is grown now and needs to learn how to handle life’s situations which includes what they will and will NOT put up with. You see, your child may not see things the way you see them. Maybe they are fine with this behavior.

So, from training with the Stoicess, you know to focus on YOU! You start with giving yourself the “good talking to”. You realize you can be there for your child if they want to talk, giving your time, understanding, support, comfort and love…. but NO intervening.

As the parent, you do want what is best for your child, but your child has to decide what path to take in life. Giving your child positive encouragement and letting them know they are important in your life is the best you can do.

Now using My S-T-O-I-C Storytelling Meditation method:

(S) My child’s partner is emotionally abusive to them; what should I do?
(T) “You shouldn’t give circumstances the power to rouse anger, for they don’t care at all.” Marcus Aurelius
“The Lord works righteousness and justice for all who are oppressed.” Book of Psalms
(O) I decided to concentrate on giving my child strength and positive encouragement.
(I) I realized by giving them tools to help them to see their worthiness and to seek God in trying times is giving them ways to see themselves in a positive light.
(C) The character trait I improved was encouragement and self-awareness of another’s importance in life.

The Stoicess’ Secret:

When someone needs a “good talking to”, start with yourself until your own face turns blue.

I’m Lori Stith, The Stoicess
Your Christian Life Coach
AND I believe in YOU!

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