How to Stop Over-Analyzing Relationships - Stoic Matchmaker



August 8, 2022

Your boss throws you a curveball by making a comment that you think was mean about your work. You’re spending time with your partner, and you see them looking intriguingly at a passerby and begin wondering if they’re about to dump you. You’re talking to your best friend when they say something odd, and you read negative emotions into their words as if they said something mean. In the end, you miss out on the good times of the day whether at the job, being with your One, or sharing time with your best friend… all because you overanalyze things. 

So how do you tone all this down in yourself? How do you keep your mind from continually overloading with the “what ifs” and the “what coulds?” 

For you, you realize you need to regain your focus when faced with a “runaway” mind. You remind myself as you leave the house each morning that your training has been completed and you are now ready to face the day. You tell myself to “stop training” now and be the best person you have trained to be. And during the day, you adopt a “No analyzing” mentality. 

You avoid “fixing” what may not be broken. And instead of analyzing what went wrong or over-analyzing what someone said or did, you simply move on to the next event of the day and trust your ability.

But most importantly, when you return home in the evening, you train, train, train. You use the S-T-O-I-C method of writing down the situation, applying stoic and Christian principles, and comparing how you dealt with the event to what you’ve newly learned. This is your time to overthink, to overanalyze – when you’re not in the heat of the imaginary battle. It’s your secret to success.

So, as bedtime nears, your mind is settled, and you have a restful sleep because your a Champion – trained to face tomorrow with the new abilities gained today.

Now using My S-T-O-I-C STORYTELLING method:

(S) How do I overcome over-analyzing my relationships?
(T) “What are we to do, then? To make the best of what lies within our power, and deal with everything else as it comes. ‘How does it come, then?’ As God wills.” Epictetus
“And we know that for those who love God all things work together for good, for those who are called according to his purpose.” Apostle Paul
(O) I decided to train each evening like a Champion so I would not overanalyze situations when in the “heat of the moment” during the day.
(I) By having my mind anchored, I can quickly regain my focus when faced with a “runaway” mind.
(C) I am determined to trust my ability so outside events will not disturb my peace.

The Stoicess’ Secret?
Train Like a Champion to Overcome a Runaway Mind

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