The Emotionally Needed Partner

April 12, 2023

The Emotionally Needed Partner.

The job’s on your mind as you leave the office. It’s late, you’re exhausted. Your mind is spinning. Your plate’s piled high, and you’ve been warned not to mess up again. The deadline for the report is noon tomorrow and the boss says it’s on you to make this happen.

At home, the misery of the day continues. You’re flying around the house to get things quickly done so you can focus on that report. And as you “dig in” on that assignment, your partner acts needy and wants your attention. It’s like they don’t “get it” that you’re dealing with a lot right now. What’s wrong with them? Couldn’t they read the room and figure out they’re not your focus?

For you, times like these are you wake-up call. It’s a reminder you need to prioritize what’s most important in your life. Yes, the job is important, and your career may be at stake, but so is your long-term happiness at this point.

You see, the problem is not your partner. The problem is not your boss. The problem is YOU.

You’ve let that most precious gift of all – time – be managed wrongly. Your twisted and turned inside-out because what’s in front of you, that report, is not what you want to do.
And thinking about your boss and tomorrow’s due date just frustrates you even more.

For what you really want is to be with that person beside you, the one helping you as you try to push them away, because you know they care and are trying to help refocus your mind.

For many precious moments in life happen in a mere instance and we miss them because we refuse to change our focus.

Taking a walk during the first snowfall of the season before it stops, watching a full moon before the clouds hide its beauty, or seeing our child riding their bike for the first time without training wheels. We miss those events, those precious moments, because we gave our time to what we disliked most.

So, from training with the Stoicess, your greatest battle is pushing all those unpleasantries – the job, the boss, the deadline – out of your mind for a little while so you can receive the most precious gifts that another is trying to share. Their compassion, their love, their TIME!

Now using My S-T-O-I-C Storytelling Meditation method:

(S) When my job is stressing me, my partner becomes more emotionally needy. How do I cope?
(T) “All you need is an attitude of gratitude in the present moment for anything that comes your way.” Marcus Aurelius

“Do not be anxious about anything but present your requests to God.” Apostle Paul
(O) I decided to handle things as they came about by importance.
(I) I realized time is the most precious gift and prioritization is needed to give or receive.
(C) The character trait I improved was knowing what is most important and setting boundaries.

The Stoicess’ Secret:

Manage Your Time before you lose Their Time.

I’m Lori Stith, The Stoicess
Your Christian Life Coach
AND I believe in YOU!

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