Those Church Door Jitters

March 29, 2023

Those Church Door Jitters.

The church bells are ringing. The auditorium is full. All eyes in the pews are looking backwards to the church door entrance. They’re waiting to see YOU!

And as you stand outside those doors waiting for your cue, it hits you, “Am I sure about this? Does he really love me? Or is it for looks, benefits, money, status, or duty?”

Those church door jitters. It’s like all those fun thoughts previously running through your head immediately stop.

Your brain has made a U-Turn. It’s sending up red flags. Are you making a mistake? What if it doesn’t work out? Are you ready to settle down with this person?

For you, from your training with the Stoicess, it’s this brief moment, the church door jitters, that you use for a final assessment of your partner. Whether it be entering a new business venture, loaning money to another, co-signing on an expensive purchase, or saying, “I do”.

It’s your last moment to perform a quick mental recap and think deeply about this person.

Did they hang in there with you when times were tough or did they look for easier avenues that left you stranded? Did they do things to impress you when others were present, but the acting stopped when it was just the two of you?

You see, marriage is the ultimate partnership. Two people giving their all.

And as in business, it is in marriage. Not one person receiving and the other taking.

So, as you stand there ready to sign your life way, whether at the church doors or in business, you deeply cherish those church door jitters because it’s your last opportunity to answer that most important question—How do you know if you really TRUST them?

Now using My S-T-O-I-C Storytelling Meditation method:

(S) My partner wants to marry but how do I know that they really love me?
(T) “Ponder for a long time whether you shall admit a given person to your friendship; but when you have decided to admit him, welcome him with all your heart and soul.” Seneca
“Love does not envy or boast; it is not arrogant or rude.” Apostle Paul
(O) I decided to not only look at how much I loved someone, but how much I trust them.
(I) I realized establishing trust takes time and seeing how one is acting when going through tough times gives clarity.
(C) The character trait I improved was using reflection before signing my life away.

The Stoicess’ Secret:

“How do I know?” Rephrase “if they Love me” to “if I really Trust them”.

I’m Lori Stith, The Stoicess
Your Christian Life Coach
AND I believe in YOU!

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