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3 Essential Questions to Ask Before Getting Serious

3 Essential Questions to Ask Before Getting Serious

December 7, 2022

3 Essential Questions to Ask Before Getting Serious. 

A new relationship is always exciting. You will both be learning more about yourselves and figuring out how to get along in a new setting. But, you must take precautions to ensure that this is a healthy new beginning. This means that you are looking for someone with whom you can grow as individuals.


In a long-term relationship, you will grow together, but that doesn’t mean you should jump into a new relationship thinking that you know everything there is to know about your significant other.


Make sure that you are on the same page about the important issues in life. Talk to your significant other about your beliefs and values as well as theirs. If you are not on the same page, you will have trouble making a long-lasting relationship work.


Also, discuss your spiritual beliefs. Discuss your (and their) beliefs about how the world works, what happens after we die, or what is considered to be moral and unethical behavior. This includes your religious background, your religion, and how you practice your faith. When you discuss your spiritual beliefs with your partner, you may find that they are very different from your own.


And keep in mind that finding the perfect partner is not easy. This is especially true when you are a Christian and you are searching for a spouse. Before you begin looking for a potential spouse, you should think about what kind of person you want to spend the rest of your life with. Do you want someone who shares your values and beliefs? Are you looking for someone who will support your family? Make sure that he or she will be a good partner to support you in your life journey.


The start of a new relationship is an exhilarating time in anyone’s life, and it can be easy to lose yourself in those heady first days. But how do you know for sure they’re the right person for you? As a Christian, it’s important that you and your new partner are on the same page about the essential things in life.


Keep reading to learn what questions you should be asking your significant other before getting serious with them about a future marriage.


What role does your faith play in your life?


Asking your partner about their relationship with Jesus is important because, although they may say they’re a Christian, they may not consider their faith a significant part of their identity or allow it to shape their choices. Asking this question helps spark a discussion on how seriously they take their Christian faith and ensure you’re on the same page.


You need to know the extent that faith in God plays in their life. Do they go to church regularly, or are they someone who doesn’t believe in God at all? How often do they read and study the Bible? Do they believe in Jesus and His resurrection?


The answers to such questions will give you a better idea of what role God plays in their life. It is also important that when your partner asks you what your religious views are, you answer truthfully. This can help to build trust and improve your relationship.


Do you have a timeline for the future?


If you’ve just started dating, it can be intimidating to bring up your new partner’s future plans. But it’s important to ask this question in the beginning so that neither of you is wasting time in a relationship where you don’t have the same life or family goals.


And talking about future plans is a good way to find out what your partner’s hopes and dreams are. This is also an opportunity to express how you feel about having a long-term relationship with someone.


Ask your partner about their ideas to accomplish their future plans. If their plans interest you, let them know you will be supportive of their goals. Being supportive means you can offer encouragement and will be willing to help.


Then, express your ideas on what you would like to do and how you would like to change your life. This will help you two develop a mutual vision for your future together.


It is a very exciting and rewarding experience when you get to know someone well enough to share your hopes, dreams, and visions with him or her. Be honest with your partner about your own future plans. This will help you two to set realistic goals and a deadline.


Discuss your ideas with your partner, and if you both agree that you are going in the same direction, then it will be easier to accomplish your goals as well as keep this relationship on the right path.


How is your relationship with your parents?


A person’s relationship with their parents often provides insight into how they handle conflict and interact with people that are close to them. Our past childhood experiences affect how we act and relate to people today and in the future. It’s important we acknowledge our past because it might help you to avoid making the same mistakes again.


Knowing one’s past offers a glimpse into your future family life together if you get married someday. Even though people have had trouble in a familial relationship, they can learn to have better communication and better communication skills.


So, just because either of you have past or current family conflict or trauma, doesn’t mean that you won’t be a good spouse someday. Just remember that context is important and so is whether one has made peace with the prior (or current) situation.


Closing comments


When you start dating someone new, it can be intimidating to ask someone about his or her future plans. Yes, it’s a difficult conversation to have, but it’s important to have it early on.


The reason is that it will help you figure out whether you both have the same goals in life. If you two are different, you may end up in a situation where you both waste a lot of time together. It’s better to find out quickly about the person you are dating, their spiritual beliefs, their relationship to God, and what they want in the future rather than finding out after you’ve been in a relationship with them for a time.


You want to be sure you’re with someone who has the same goals as you. You may also want to make sure that they have a good job, a stable family, and financial security. If you have questions about these things, you should discuss them early on.


You should always be honest when you talk to your partner about his or her future plans. You should explain why you want to know about them. Also, keep in mind that this doesn’t mean you have to share everything in detail with him or her. It’s okay to just share enough so that your partner understands your concerns. Once you find out your partner’s goals, you should keep track of them and work toward reaching them together.


Asking “the tough” questions early in a relationship is a good way to test your compatibility, bring you closer together, and keep your faith in God at the focal point of your relationship. It’s a good way to ensure neither of you is wasting the other’s time for a shared life journey that will be impossible to endure if a mismatch is present.

I’m Lori Stith, The Stoicess
Your Christian Life Coach
AND I believe in YOU!


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