When he loves instrumental music during worship and you don’t

June 14, 2023

When he loves instrumental music during worship and you don’t.

You’re from Columbia, South Carolina and he’s from Jacksonville, Florida. You’ve been dating online and the two of you decide to meet up at the Arboretum in Jacksonville on a Sunday afternoon. After having a lovely afternoon, he invites you to evening worship with him at his local congregation. He tells you that you’ll love it because the instrumental music will “enliven you to no end.” However, you immediately reel back in your mind because your congregation in Columbia doesn’t agree with instrumental music.

So, do you refuse the invite or accept his invitation as an opportunity to witness something new as you both serve your Lord?

When it comes to worship music, everyone has their own preferences. Differences in opinions on instrumental music in worship can cause tension and conflict within a religious community. Whether you prefer traditional hymns or contemporary worship songs, it’s important to approach these differences with respect and understanding. If you find yourself at odds with your partner over their love for instrumental music in worship, it can be a challenging situation to navigate. However, with some understanding and communication, you can find a way to honor both of your preferences and come together in worship. It’s not uncommon for couples to have different opinions on worship music. If you’re struggling with your partner’s love for instrumental music, this blog offers helpful tips on how to handle the situation with grace.

Understand the history and context of instrumental music in worship

Before engaging in a discussion about instrumental music in worship, it’s important to understand the history and context of this practice. Different religious traditions have varying views on the use of instruments in worship, and these views may be influenced by cultural and historical factors. Take the time to research and learn about the perspectives of different groups within your religious community, and approach the conversation with an open mind and a willingness to learn.

Understand the Importance of Worship to Your Partner

Before addressing the issue of instrumental music in worship, it’s important to understand why worship is important to your partner. For many people, worship, like meditation, is a deeply personal and meaningful experience that connects them with their faith and community. By showing empathy and respect for your partner’s love for worship, you can create a foundation for a productive conversation about your differences in musical preferences.

Communicate openly with those who have different preferences

When it comes to handling differences in worship preferences, communication is key. It’s important to approach the conversation with an open mind and a willingness to listen to the perspectives of others. Be respectful and avoid making assumptions or judgments about others’ beliefs. Instead, ask questions and seek to understand their point of view. Remember that it’s possible to disagree without being disrespectful or dismissive. By communicating openly and respectfully, you can work towards finding a solution that works for everyone.

Communicate Your Feelings in a Respectful Manner

It’s important to communicate your feelings about instrumental music in worship to your partner, but it’s equally important to do so in a respectful manner. Avoid attacking your partner’s beliefs or musical preferences, and instead focus on expressing how you feel and why. Use “I” statements, such as “I feel uncomfortable during instrumental worship because it’s not what I’m used to,” rather than “You always choose instrumental music and it’s ruining worship for me.” By approaching the conversation with empathy and respect, you’re more likely to find a solution that works for both of you.

Find Common Ground and Compromise

When it comes to differences in worship music preferences, finding common ground and compromising is key. Perhaps you can agree to alternate between instrumental and vocal worship music, or find a compromise by incorporating both styles into your worship service. This may also involve incorporating a mix of traditional and contemporary music styles, or alternating between different types of music on different Sundays. It’s important to remember that worship is about coming together as a community to praise and honor God, and that can be done through a variety of musical styles. By working together and finding a solution that works for both of you, you can strengthen your relationship and deepen your spiritual connection.

Focus on the purpose of worship and the message of the music

When navigating differences in instrumental music preferences in worship, it’s important to keep the focus on the purpose of worship and the message of the music. Remember that the ultimate goal is to honor and glorify God, and that different styles of music can help achieve this goal in different ways. It’s also important to listen to each other’s perspectives and try to understand where they are coming from. By keeping the focus on the bigger picture and working together, you can create a worship experience that is meaningful and uplifting for all.

Embrace diversity and celebrate different worship styles

One of the beautiful things about worship is that it can take many different forms. Embracing diversity and celebrating different worship styles can help create a more inclusive and welcoming environment for everyone. Instead of seeing differences in instrumental music preferences as a source of conflict, try to view them as an opportunity to learn from each other and grow in your faith. By working together and respecting each other’s perspectives, you can create a worship experience that is truly unique and meaningful.

Attend Different Services or Worship Together

One way to respect differences in worship music preferences is to attend different services or worship together. If your partner loves instrumental music, try attending a service that features more of that style of music. This can help you understand and appreciate your partner’s preferences, and may even help you find common ground. Alternatively, you can try worshiping together and incorporating both styles of music into your worship service. This can be a great way to compromise and show respect for each other’s preferences. Remember, the most important thing is to come together as a community to worship and honor God.

Remember the Importance of Love and Respect in Your Relationship

When it comes to differences in worship music preferences, it’s important to remember the foundation of your relationship: love and respect. It’s okay to have different opinions and preferences, but it’s not okay to belittle or dismiss your partner’s feelings. Instead, approach the situation with empathy and understanding. Listen to your partner’s perspective and try to find a solution that works for both of you. Remember, your relationship is more important than any disagreement over worship music.

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