Small Ways to Impress Her on the First Date

November 16, 2022

Small Ways to Impress Her on the First Date

A great first date will definitely impress her. First dates can be fun even though somewhat stressful initially. You’ll be surprised to know that many people will actually be more comfortable if you plan the date ahead of time.

Plan an activity that you would like to do together. Ask your date for  input. Go to a restaurant, go to the movies, go to the park, or just go for a walk in the mall. Try to keep this first outing in a public place so she will feel more comfortable during the date. Have her give your cell number to her close friend or family member to show you care for her safety.

Also, be relaxed and enjoy the date. Being anxious can ruin the date. If you are worried about something, make sure that you talk about it early with Trusted friends. This will help to calm your nerves before meeting your date.

Know that most people do not really talk about their problems on first dates. They may make her embarrassed and not know what to say to respond. And she may try to change the subject to a safe topic which may annoy you some.

If you have a serious problem that will need to be eventually addressed, discuss the topic with her on a later date should you two decide to continue the dating relationship. However, the goal for this initial outing is to determine if chemistry, like interests, and similar faith are present.

Keep in mind that you’ll have plenty of chances to talk to each other about those deeper issues as the relationship, if successful initially, develops. Your goal is intentional dating to find that correct Christian person to marry.

Here are some ways to impress her on a first date, so she’ll want to hear from you again. 

Dress Sharp

There is no denying that looking sharp is an important aspect of a first date that conjures an attractive impression. Wearing cologne, a shave, a fresh haircut, and sporting a nice dress shirt and slacks or jeans (if that’s your thing) can go a long way. A man who takes care of himself is not just noticeable, but appealing.

So, dress well for your first date. This means dressing comfortably and looking presentable. You should wear something that makes you look your best. Your outfit doesn’t have to cost a lot of money, but it does have to be of high quality. Be sure that you match your outfit to the occasion and your personality.

When she shows up for the date, make sure that you are ready to go.

Comb your hair before you meet and ensure that your teeth are clean and your breath smells fresh (carrying along a few mints goes a long way particularly when you offer her a mint after a meal).

Wear a clean shirt and pants that look tidy – no dirty laundry with smells on display, please, gentlemen. Wear a newer pair of shoes or slippers that are broken in, but not your favorite ones with holes beginning to develop.

And don’t be too stylish to the point that you’ll stand out in a crowd due to your bright colors or showing too much skin even if you do have the physique of a hulk. In other words, be modest in your dress.

Take out your cell phone and turn it off prior to her arrival so your complete attention will be on her.

I also suggest getting to the meeting early enough so that you can sit down, scope out the place, and relax some before the date begins. A gentleman knowing where the restrooms are located is particularly appreciated by us ladies.

Interesting Conversation

Before you meet your date for the first time, you should know a little bit about her. Do some research and find out what kind of person she is like. This will help you not be so nervous when you meet. It will also make you more confident. Your date will start to like you more if she sees you are confident.

Your goal is to get to know each other a little better during the date. She will want to know more about you and your personality. Make sure that you aren’t too formal when you are talking. Don’t treat her like a stranger; instead, you should treat her as if you are best friends.

Try to talk about anything that is interesting to both of you. For instance, you can talk about the movie you saw the other night or what she did on her last vacation. Find out what your common interests are. Discuss your respective faiths in God.  Start with small talk and keep the topics light until you hit on a topic that interests you both.

Once you’ve got her attention, make sure you keep it. Sometimes it can be hard to open up on a first date, but that’s exactly what you should do.

And don’t feel obligated to say too much initially. Space or air between topics brought up is natural, so don’t feel uncomfortable when it occurs. Simply enjoy being in their presence. Just let the conversation flow naturally. Be yourself. You’ll be amazed by how comfortable she’ll be with you during the silence as she takes in the ambience and your relaxing demeanor.

If she asks you what you did last night, it means she wants to know what you’re like as a person in your “normal life”.

If you bring up a topic, ensure it’s something interesting that she appears to like before pressing the conversation further. Never push an issue she doesn’t want to talk about.

Don’t talk about your family, friends, hobbies or other things that you might do unless she specifically asks. Otherwise, it will likely come across as bragging or being boastful. However, be interested in her interests and hobbies. Ask clarifying questions if appropriate to show your interest in learning from her. Know that our caring nature as a woman means we enjoy teaching another.

Make sure that you listen intently to what she is saying. When you are listening, try to concentrate on how her responses make you feel.

Don’t take too long to respond when asked a question. When you’re thinking about what to say next, just say the first thing that comes to mind. After a while, you’ll figure out what you’ll say next.

Remember, be the wonderful Christian that you are and try to have fun. Make sure that your conversation is interesting to her. You don’t need to talk about serious subjects such as the war, the economy, or politics on the first date. Instead, talk about favorite foods, movies, outings, or hobbies.

Talk about what you like and what you dislike. Ask her about their likes and dislikes. Such questions will open the floor to more chatting about the topics. This will give each of you the opportunity to learn more about the other.

Lead the conversation by asking intuitive questions about a topic that she briefly mentioned prior to the meeting. She’ll notice you remembered and that’s important because it shows that you listen and care.

Don’t stop there though. Tell her something interesting and new about yourself that you may not have mentioned before, particularly if it dovetails into her topic. This will keep her on her toes and also show that you are opening up to her. We women like to see that you are vulnerable – but only to us! It shows you are willing to become intimate with her.

Lastly, know that the best way to have fun is to be yourself. Don’t try too hard to impress her. Don’t talk about yourself a lot. Let her know that you are excited to meet her. Try not to talk about your problems. She will probably know that you are doing this, so be careful. You might make yourself look desperate.

Roses? Maybe, But Don’t Stop There

For the ladies, roses are a great way to show that you’ve been thinking about her prior to the actual date. That’s the message you want to get across to her, but you’ll need to take it to the next level to make a genuine impression. Open doors for her, help her with her seat, and let her order first when you’re about to eat.

The roses are a nice touch, but the rest will let her know that she’s special in your eyes. Even if it’s not a match between you two, your efforts will let her know that you’re kind and considerate, and that you are much more than your competition out there. She will know you’re sweet and thoughtful and that will make her feel special, and you definitely want her to feel special. If for no other reason, she has friends that she will tell about you, and you may find your match made in heaven with one of them when they come seeking you.

So, do what you can to make her feel special. You can make her feel like she’s the most important person in your life. You don’t have to say something dramatic, like, “You are my world”, when on that first date. But do something by your actions that will let her know that you value her, her time, and most important, her sharing her mind with you. Letting a woman know your respect her intelligence is a winner in any lady’s book in my opinion.

Closing Comments

Ah, the first date. Butterflies, good food, and great conversation—if you can coordinate it. First dates can be stressful, but if you plan the details, you may not only have a good time but impress her so much she just has to go out with you again. My tips above should put you on the right footing for that second date.

And remember, no matter where you go or what you do on your date, it’s not difficult to impress the lady on your arm when you try. Even if it’s not a match, your Christian efforts will let her know that you’re kind and considerate, and that will be more than a plenty to outdo the competition.

I’m Lori Stith, The Stoicess
Your Christian Life Coach
AND I believe in YOU!

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